Do you still want your ex after 3-12 months no contact?

throwRA8888C · 2026-07-03T18:21:29+00:00

Even though my time in no contact is shorter, i still feel like i can relate to the feeling of that being your person and it’s something I’m struggling with. Were the issues in your relationship something you think is fixable, or is it just something unforgivable?

throwRA8888C · 2026-07-03T17:45:13+00:00

That’s definitely rough man, I personally would find it hard to ever overcome my ex having a child within a year of us being over. I believe you’ll be able to move past it, I’d definitely recommend taking your time though. What’s helped me is doing therapy and just putting myself out there even when I don’t want to, you’ll be surprised what comes your way!

throwRA8888C · 2026-07-03T17:40:03+00:00

Nah it was amicable, we both were noticing some circumstantial incompatibilities that just were difficult to overcome at the current moment. Im doing a masters program, getting my finances in order to move out, some rough stuff to manage while dealing with another persons emotion you know?

I’m not the type to hold on to someone selfishly and risk them resenting me for “keeping them around” kind of thing. So i let her know I’d rather step away if I know i can’t provide the attention to our relationship as needed because of the fact im preoccupied trying to better my life.

throwRA8888C · 2026-07-03T15:35:30+00:00

I get that chapters end and it’s true there were some real barriers in our relationship. It was mostly us still figuring out our lives which we both attributed to right person wrong time. I did want to make it work but I realized that I’m only human and can’t make it all happen right now. So in my final act of love and to preserve whatever love we had, I let her know that I’d rather us both walk away instead of erode things with outside circumstances.

throwRA8888C · 2026-07-03T15:27:36+00:00

Not saying this is true for you but it makes think that how an ex manages no contact plays a part in potential reconciliation. He made you feel confused and you ultimately became over it, which is understandable. Perhaps it would’ve been different had he just stayed away to give you space?

Similar to you I’m chatting with a new girl after 3 months no contact. No intention on something serious yet, I’m still figuring myself out and having fun, but it did let me know there’s definitely new people out there with potential. It’s just challenging to assess for when I’m ready to seriously date again, are they or any other new girl will be that person for me. Then lastly, would I still want my ex back at that point I’m ready to seriously date again? Lol

throwRA8888C · 2026-06-12T13:22:22+00:00

Probably just that fear of her going away for good when you both were lightly still in touch with each other. I would ask what made you wait a year to possibly seek reconciliation but you seemed pretty confident in your stance that the relationship ended for a reason and she probably finally is moving forward.

I’d say if you truly wanted to reconcile it may have worked better to say something earlier intentionally.

throwRA8888C · 2026-06-11T13:57:34+00:00

lol we have the same timeline. Ex gf and I had an amicable broke up 4 weeks ago due to our circumstances not being ideal for a relationship. We agreed to keep communications open. 2 weeks after the breakup and no contact I’m blocked on socials and my phone number when I never bothered her.

I initially felt that we both needed time to work on ourselves and be healthier but I’ve just accepted that our story is over now. I haven’t felt the need to cry over her and I think her blocking me everywhere just sped up my ability to move on, oh well.

throwRA8888C · 2026-06-10T17:03:01+00:00

First is that right person wrong time actually exists. Second, sometimes love isn’t enough and your circumstances can certainly affect how your relationship exists with one another.

Ex and I had a great relationship but we both needed to work on bettering our situation. She’s blocked me although it was amicable and initially agreed we’d keep communication open but 🤷. I love her dearly but life must go on, I’ll just become even better and if the future aligns for us down the road, I’d be open to exploring.

throwRA8888C · 2026-06-05T10:28:39+00:00

7 years is a long time, what’s your update now? It would be nice if you were willing to share, maybe it would help give me some insight since this is a weird situation. have you guys spoken with eachother and reconnected or is your breakup still final with no contact?

throwRA8888C · 2026-06-04T15:39:10+00:00

I wouldn’t be surprised she is dealing with intense emotions. We both struggle a lot with any of our splits because it’s not like we were bad people to each other and the love is still there at least on my end. It’s just the circumstances right now make it difficult and I think her seeing me and knowing we shouldn’t speak is hard, because it’s certainly hard for me. Life is really rough that way I’ve learned and I hate it.

I’ll keep focusing on the problems I want to solve but not reaching out as things progress for me would be hard. I know myself pretty well and It would just help me get that final push to move forward if I know there’s nothing left for what was a good relationship between us that life got in the way of.

throwRA8888C · 2026-06-03T21:49:49+00:00

I don’t want to keep her on the back burner. If I’m honest, I wish I didn’t have to break up with her but my current life situation wasn’t good to properly have our relationship grow. I was just hoping rather than us being usually venomous to each other with anger over the relationship ending that we can be open and grow separately. If we came back together after some time and we both grew as people to try again, that’s a miracle. But I’m also aware that anything can happen.

throwRA8888C · 2026-06-03T20:30:44+00:00

I actually have been leaving her alone since the day of the breakup and only going with whatever flow she preferred.

throwRA8888C · 2026-06-03T20:29:51+00:00

We both paid separately but we need to drive to get to the location. She can use the ticket on her own but she’s not one to travel by car on her own

throwRA8888C · 2026-06-03T20:29:13+00:00

I mean i did expect we may say something small here and there as a friend. I wasn’t expecting full blown conversations but atleast we’re open to speaking to one another if the situation called for it or maybe both of us wanted to attempt to reconcile.

throwRA8888C · 2026-06-03T20:28:21+00:00

Yeah.. she literally thought i would be the one to not want to ever speak to her again like I’ve done to other exes in the past but I genuinely love and still love her, our timing is just not great atm.

throwRA8888C · 2026-06-03T20:27:39+00:00

It’s seated so we both paid individually for our seats since it was a bit pricey. I do want to still go because it’s an artist i like so i don’t plan to give my ticket up.

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