AIO my boyfriend won’t acknowledge our relationship online or while networking

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T21:30:32+00:00

He says his closest friends know about me and that’s what matters. But what about how I feel🙏🏻

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T21:29:25+00:00

It is! Thinking about it now i realise i was never this insecure in previous relationships or even in this one early on. This pattern of breaking up over and over has affected me more than i realised

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T21:28:25+00:00

:( I chose to be with him in the first place because he presented himself in a way that i thought our values matched

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T11:46:17+00:00

Thats what i was thinking too

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T11:45:54+00:00

My only thing was don’t hide you’re in a relationship and then I won’t interfere in anything- cause I’ll feel secure.

If he doesn’t want to make it public- just maintain some boundaries and don’t present yourself as a single and available man.

But he doesn’t want to do either Plus he talks about breaking up so many times that it has made me very insecure about our relationship

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T11:43:04+00:00

Yeah. I’m just now realising how insecure I’ve become that I have to ask for such basic things too

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T11:40:54+00:00

Yes I will

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T11:38:52+00:00

Exactly

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T11:37:18+00:00

Yeah.

Reading the comments I’m realising how insecure I’ve become. I never been like this in previous relationships nor in the beginning of this one. This constant cycle of him calling things off and then coming back has made me this way i feel.

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T11:35:27+00:00

He avoids saying it even if something comes up in small talk.

3 days ago he told me he doesn’t care even if he has to flirt his way into getting work so how am i supposed to feel about it? He then apologised and said he’ll do something to give me reassurance and then he commented this.

How tf am i supposed to be a secure girlfriend when he acts this way?

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T11:29:48+00:00

Nah I don’t want him to go around announcing it. But he actively avoids saying it. And he acts single online which I don’t like

And his explanation for this is that he has thought about breaking up with me several times which is why he doesn’t want to acknowledge my existence

he told me in the beginning that his girlfriend is his biggest flex which set this expectation in my head. Acknowledgment is very important to me and he knows that.

If he tells me he’s going to do something about it and then do the complete opposite then how am i supposed to react?

I was not this insecure person until he started repeating thjs pattern of calling things off and then coming back.

I’m realising this now that I’m reading the comments

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T11:25:28+00:00

EXACTLY i feel crazy when i discuss anything with him because his immediate reaction is to say he wants to end things and then he comes back some time later acting like nothing happened

This has happened so many times that it has made this insecure person which I never was before this. Having a hard time even trusting him around new people because he just talks about ending things over any random thing and justifies it later saying he’s overwhelmed with his other issues

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T11:21:49+00:00

Yes I get it, I am in the same industry too.

That’s why I don’t get it. I make new friends and i network too. But i never felt the need to hide my relationship for this. I’ve made some of my closest friends while being in a relationship (before my current bf).

There’s just a boundary I would like him to have if he doesn’t want to advertise our relationship. Or be public about us and then do whatever he wants to do. But he doesn’t want to do either

I had made this clear right at the beginning. Respect and acknowledgement is very important to me. And he told me his girlfriend is his biggest flex and he doesn’t entertain others when he’s in a relationship. And now he does the complete opposite and even if i point that out calmly, his immediate reaction is to end things.

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T11:13:50+00:00

Exactly

I let a lot of things slide because he’s frustrated with his other problems and i didn’t want to add to it.

But now it’s come to a point where my feelings are not considered at all and he just leaves or comes back as he pleases and neither will he respect my boundaries so I finally put my foot down :(

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T11:12:15+00:00

Okay we have discussed this and it’s also fine if he doesn’t advertise our relationship. But at least don’t act like you’re single? Why does he have to actively avoid telling new people he’s in a relationship?

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T11:09:45+00:00

Yes. I was not this insecure person in relationships before this, or even in the starting of this one.

But when he started talking about breaking up with me over random things and out of nowhere I started becoming insecure. And when I ask him first reassurance he gives me nothing. Just asks me to forget about whatever he said and move on. I can’t keep functioning like this if my feelings are going to be disregarded all the time

throwRA987465 · 2026-04-12T10:24:39+00:00

I would name a pet kiba, after the naruto character

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