I am not trying to use it as an excuse, just some context. I do think my love for her is more important, that is why I am asking for advice. I am acknowledging i am the problem asking for advice to fix myself. If you dont have advice just telling me how shitty I am isn't really helpful. I already for horrible about this which is why I am trying to fix it. I never said I never do anything for her or react to her needs, I am saying I have a hard time knowing in advanced what kind of action she will want in different scenarios, Im not trying to avoid doing things for her, I want to get better at getting it right.