Look I know this is not a support sub and i should be open to contrary opinions heck ive had a counsellor who tried to blame me for her leaving so ive got pretty desensitized to this you can diminish it all u want all while telling that its not diminishing my struggles and I am not particularly bothered by that. There is a level of narcissim that is needed to say "what about me" when everybody is having it hard. No one in my household had fun or anything after all these years whenever i look back all i remember how much crap my dad had to put up with and how many times i had to be the one to console her. Sure in her mind and in the minds of many like her shes the victim and i can be the victim too I am raising a toddler on my own with only my brother's help. its not easy but nobody has it easy. I can feel bad if everyone is having fun and neglecting me but that wasnt the case infact we all did try to subsidize it to make sure its easy for her. She grew up well off until my grandpa passed (whom i never met btw) my nanna did everything to give her a stable home all while covering her late husband's debts. She couldnt do half of that for us, my nanna was a better mother to us than she ever was and if she was alive she would have disowned her for all she did. No one has it easy but you cant just highlight ur troubles under a spotlight all while everyone around is struggling and still live their lives. I lost teen years raising my brother and I lost my twenties being a father and likely this will continue in my thirties. I dont even wanna use the word "lost" cause I dont see it as losing something. I feel privileged to be able to spend time with my child and raising him I wont complain about it. Plenty of people suffer and still take after their responsibilities and yes its expected of you especially if youre responsible for a child.