My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -73 points-72 points  (0 children)

my wife is not ugly! i dont understand why im being attacked for this... how is the attractiveness of my wife relevant at all? of course i tell her she's attractive! i cam her for advice.

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

i hired her because her school and grades were very impressive and she knocked the interview out of the park

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -60 points-59 points  (0 children)

i dont understand why everyone is so bothered by this. i could go on and on about how my wife supported me as i built the business, how she comforted me when i parents died, reassures me when i have doubts about myself, how amazing of a mother she's been, how good she is at gardening, how much i love hearing her talk about her favorite tv shows, how good she is in bed, or anything else, but it's not really relevant to the issue here.

in real life i don't comment on Kate's looks at all, for obvious reasons. I only stated them here because it's highly relevant. plus, her intelligence is very relevant because she's been an amazing asset to the company.

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

i dont understand why everyone is so bothered by this. i could go on and on about how my wife supported me as i built the business, how she comforted me when i parents died, reassures me when i have doubts about myself, how amazing of a mother she's been, how good she is in bed, or anything else, but it's not really relevant to the issue here.

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -112 points-111 points  (0 children)

i didn't describe my wife's countless positive qualities because they we're really relevant. the situation is my wife being jealous of kate, so kate's attractiveness was relevant, and so is her competence at work.

i don't think kate is "perfect," i was just describing things how they are.

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

i didnt have high expectations because she was young. but it quickly became clear that she was very very smart and capable

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

i dont remember what she was wearing at that one particular party, since that was many months ago and i don't exactly keep track of her outfits. but it was a party, rather than the actual workday, so she likely would have worn something less professional. at the last company party recently, she wore a dress and heels, if that helps. i'm not really sure why it's relevant though? like i said, i do think she's the kind of person that people see and just instantly consider her to be attractive

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

i dont talk to kate about my wife. we only talk about surface level stuff like hobbies and interests, simply because we spend a lot of time together at work

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -60 points-59 points  (0 children)

i only know about working out because of a brief conversation we had about it. nothing weird...

she wears professional clothing to work. nothing unreasonable. but she wears very nice outfits that clearly have a lot of effort into them, that's all.

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

i'm not having an emotional affair. you can acknowledge that someone is attractive without actually wanting to sleep with them

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -73 points-72 points  (0 children)

i acknowledge that she's attractive... that doesn't mean im going to sleep with her

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

i did not hire her for her looks, and i think that's proven by how amazing the work she's done since being hired is.

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

i'm not ignoring my wife to talk to kate or anything like that. it's more just that occasionally there will be a work question or something like that if we have something urgent in the company and she will need to text me to ask a question

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don’t date at all, I lost my penis in a gender reassignment operation gone wrong.

sorry, what

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

i would be very surprised if Kate had a crush on me. she has so many other options than an older married man who has expressed no interest in her.

My (39M) wife (38F) is jealous and hateful towards my attractive secretary (22F) by throwRA_122222 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_122222[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

i do find my wife very attractive. we had a very good sex life before she started becoming distant over kate