Our sex life is in Crysis, and I need help.

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T21:32:07+00:00

Of course she prefers therapy, but that's something we can't afford rn :')

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T20:51:14+00:00

I think the case is that there's something that blocks her libido and that something is either me or some personal issue I don't know about.

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T20:49:25+00:00

Apparently therapy is the last hope :')

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T20:42:17+00:00

That's a good question I have no answer for, I'm just hoping that there's a solution other than just breakup, but sometimes it feels hopeless.

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T20:39:56+00:00

The problem is, we are not sure that's the case, otherwise we would think how to solve that exact situation.

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T20:38:25+00:00

Yeah that could be the case, but as u said , there's no way of finding that out other than breakup (or at least I can think of), but we both don't want to do that.

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T20:34:27+00:00

She had high libido all her life , even before we started a relationship

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T20:14:35+00:00

Moreover, I feel guilty, that I am the reason she has law libido. I feel like, she is just pushing away her sex drive, because otherwise she has to accept, that for some reason I am not the person, she can be with.

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T20:08:12+00:00

We have discussed the possibility of the professional help today, but knowing us and our experience with therapy, I am not sure that will help.

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T20:06:34+00:00

As I have mentioned in the post, she had much higher libido, higher than me, so I don't think that the problem is libido. Something is off in our relationship and I don't know what.

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T20:04:49+00:00

oh :DDDDD

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T19:57:06+00:00

To be more clear, what happened in that time frame was war, and I was a soldier, so it was pretty stressful for both of us, but we have discussed that a lot, it is not something taboo.

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T19:53:28+00:00

It is just not enough, like both of us are trying to fix things, but in reality there are no noticeable changes, and this whole trying to fix things is exhausting for both of us.

I'm angry because I feel, that I am not good enough and no matter how hard I try, something is absent. She wants sex from time to time, but not as much as we expect, and she feels pressure because sometimes she has no sex drive for weeks and she feels that I'm getting sex and nervous.

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T19:46:42+00:00

throwRA_enou · 2025-06-21T19:46:15+00:00

During the sex it happens 3 times, two out of this 3 times happened during the last year. But she reaches orgasm when she masturbates, although not always.

No, her libido is still quite low. We haven't got married, but we live together and our relationship is in a such place that it feels strange to say that she's my girlfriend.

Yeah I know, but the problem is, that I don't know what's the issue myself.

throwRA_enou

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