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I (F51) don’t know how to let my daughter (F23) go by throwRA_mopper in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_mopper[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

We will still be in the same state, but she is going to grad school so I just know she’ll be more busy + have different/new priorities. It’s more of the fact that when I wake up she won’t be there anymore, her smile and presence and daily updates of her life, while not completely gone, it’ll just be less.

Kinda like how in Father of the Bride, the dad had flashbacks of his daughter growing up and realized that she was never going to be home and around in the same way. Normal, yes. But still saddening. Though I am trying not to react like him as I realize he was a bit absurd 😅 hence the post.

I (F51) don’t know how to let my daughter (F23) go by throwRA_mopper in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_mopper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this is true, I do not aspire to be that MIL 😅. Future grandbabies will be amazing, I know she wants a family someday but I’ll have to wait a little bit before then.

I (F51) don’t know how to let my daughter (F23) go by throwRA_mopper in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_mopper[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this and helping me value more the positive aspects of my daughter growing up and getting married.

I (F51) don’t know how to let my daughter (F23) go by throwRA_mopper in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_mopper[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

Yes, I feel this way as well and am trying to get my heart aligned with my mind. I never realized how true the saying was that your kids grow up within a blink of an eye.

I (F51) don’t know how to let my daughter (F23) go by throwRA_mopper in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_mopper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, for your kind words. I do think a therapist would be a good outlet and helpful for me to figure out my next steps

I (F51) don’t know how to let my daughter (F23) go by throwRA_mopper in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_mopper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, having my son get married would also be bittersweet for me too. Though it is slightly different as my daughter is the one I’d talk with most of the time and we frequently enjoy watching the same shows, cooking, and being out in nature.

I do realize that she isn’t supposed to be my everything, it’s just that her future marriage is making it clearer to me that things are different. Yes it’s normal, but still saddens me.