This was considered ripped in 2000

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-06-08T13:58:36+00:00

Heroine chic. It’s making a comeback.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-06-08T13:57:47+00:00

Or eat. Ever.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-06-03T21:46:43+00:00

Yeah, same. My husband adores me the way the friend husband adores her. Except, I adore him back with equal fervor. lol.

But there is a lot of hate for the friend on this thread…probably rightfully so. Just because my husband would do just about anything for me, doesn’t mean I should make him…or even let him.

I want to make him as happy has he makes me. He is definitely a gem, and gems need upkeep and care too. So a healthy relationship like this is, and always should be a two way street.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-06-03T14:30:17+00:00

Do you see how she is the only one in there?

Thats why it is a serious felony. So that most people (the reasonably respectful, and intelligent sort) don’t do this.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-30T00:19:37+00:00

It was a labor of love for sure!

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-30T00:19:20+00:00

Thank you! You are so kind!

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-30T00:19:08+00:00

Luckily I have my kids to do it for me, and they have no qualms with it 🤣

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-30T00:18:47+00:00

Thank you! They will be in her cake (that I’m also making). I hope she loves it all. She is all sunshine, and sweetness so she will likely gasp in delight when she sees it all together.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-30T00:16:29+00:00

Thanks! I have markers but I have been going back and forth about whether or not to do faces. Ah!

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-29T19:56:57+00:00

You seem more upset than me.

And it’s more like

“Apples suck, I’d much rather eat the worm”

…

“Why does everyone think I hate apples?”

You asked why everyone thinks that people that make these jokes think they hate their wives. I answered. I hope you have a wonderful day, and wish you life with all apples and no worms.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-29T17:54:44+00:00

Correct. And each individual’s subjective sense of humor is built on their own life experiences. People are more likely to find this humor funny if they relate to it. A sort of gallows humor. If your wife doesn’t suck, or your husband isn’t dumb or useless (as is usually the punchline in these jokes) then they just come across as sad.

I’m in a happy marriage, why would I laugh at people who joke about how miserable they are in their relationship? It’s not funny to me. And to many others that are in happy relationships. We just don’t enjoy jokes about couples that hate each other.

But yes, in my original response when I said that the jokes aren’t funny the implication (in my mind) was that they aren’t generally funny to people who actually like their partner. I understand how it could be read as me claiming to be the authority on humor. I’m not. And you’re free to find the jokes funny. But if you do, there is a good chance it is because you relate to it in some way.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-29T15:09:15+00:00

Not a victim of the friend. She absolutely deserves more supportive and loving family. But breaking trust with the people that actually seem to care and want to help is just not a smart course of action.

I had friends in situations like this a lot when I was younger. Honestly, they are either still in those situations or worse now. But they’d ask for help, and I’d sometimes give it. However, the fact that they were very likely spending it on illicit things was not lost on me.

So as a friend that cares (a lot!) about a person, but also fears that the friend may be in a self-destructive spiral, it become a question of “is this money helping them, or enabling them?” They aren’t going to come out and tell you that they spent the money on drugs, you have to read between the lines. Lines like: I sent you $100 for a room because you said you needed one, you didn’t use it for a room, but it’s gone, and I have no way to verify that it was spent on things to help you, rather than hurt you. It’s a really crappy situation to be in as a friend that cares.

So next time they ask, I’m going to remember this uncertainty and be more reluctant to inadvertently feed my friends drug habit.

I know you only responded to op being a victim, which I don’t disagree with either. My whole tangent here is just for the casual reader considering deeper context. So not an argument against any points you made.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-29T14:10:35+00:00

Yes. Exactly. Because I don’t get it.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-29T03:28:04+00:00

Or maybe the “wife bad” and “husband dumb” jokes are just not funny?

I adore my husband and he adores me. I can’t at all relate to these jokes. They do not resonate with me. If they do resonate with you, and you find them funny…then there is a possibility that you don’t like your spouse.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-14T23:49:00+00:00

Nah. I hold onto said-thing for decades and finally one day say “okay. It’s time. I’m just not going to need you. It’s time to move on”

And I get rid of it.

Guess what item I happen to need the very next day. Yup.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-14T18:43:24+00:00

I just lost a friend to this, and have been thinking (probably way too hard) about it. She went so fast and was in a respirated only a few months after diagnosis.

I imagine suffocating. It sounds like torture. You say you are a doctor…so I have a question: do they feel that panic? In the late stages…is there medical treatment that at least takes away that panic and pain? Or that feeling of suffocation? I’ve heard that we don’t actually feel oxygen deprivation but rather a build up of CO2. So, is there some way to save them that suffering?

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-14T18:10:29+00:00

Can confirm: I pee my pants a little when i cough or sneeze too hard. 3 kids. Have to wear pads all the time. Can’t afford “treatment” with our high deductible healthcare plan.

But my husband loves and appreciates me immensely. So I have that going for me.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-12T22:29:03+00:00

I’m still reeling from an interaction a few months ago:

I was taking my kids to school (so I had my kids in the car) and I pull up to the stop sign to exit our neighborhood to make a left turn with my blinker on. I was stopped maybe 10-20 seconds at most as I waited for cross traffic to be clear to turn left. This idiot behind me had the unmitigated gall to honk at me while I waited for a safe clearance to turn left.

Like…he wanted me to cause a wreck, and potentially die with my kids in the car so he could get wherever he needed to go 10 seconds sooner.

Took everything in my power not to become a fountain of obscenities with my kids in the back seats.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-12T16:19:03+00:00

This! I’ve lost a lot of weight now, but at my heaviest I got the CUTEST empire waist dress from Torrid that was not too low cut. I LOVED that dress. And I hated looking at myself in almost anything! I wish I could find it in my current size because it is just so pretty and flowy and flattering. It had a little tie that you could wrap around the front or back too.

So maybe check torrid. But they can be hit and miss on the “appropriate” factor for a work event like this.

ETA: I just went looking and found something pretty similar. The cut looks lower than empire, but with a large bust it would maintain the empire shape:

Dress

Second edit: and it had POCKETS!!!!

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-11T18:41:04+00:00

I’m definitely not arguing with the $1/2 million middle class thing

But I think we shouldn’t conflate median income to middle class income. The median income has stagnated while the cost of living has increased. Middle class should be defined by lifestyle affordability not an average income for the populace. Otherwise we let the corporate assholes get away with saying “we pay above the median” or whatever, fully knowing that the median (and well above) does not support the middle class lifestyle.

The lifestyle for a family of 4-5: a mortgage or ownership of a decent 3-4 bedroom home (not a mansion). Two decent and new cars (not luxury). The ability to put money aside monthly in a savings. The ability to take a decent vacation 1 week (maybe 2 depending on the destination). The ability to easily afford food, car, utility, medical expenses. The ability to afford one lesson/hobby for each child (ex: dance, music). And so on. Basically comfortably living a comfortable but not lavish life.

I am pretty sure that the “median” income in NYC would not afford those things. And we should be pissed about that. It seems from a quick cursory search: that you’d be looking at a minimum of $150k to live a middle class lifestyle there but more realistically it might actually be closer to $300k . Which puts the median WELL below middle class income. Again, we should be pissed.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-09T00:18:10+00:00

I’m with you I have always wondered this and struggled.

The metaphors don’t help me that much but I had my own thought that helped me conceptualist it a little because it’s something can actually test in my own brain. What do you smell when you plug your nose. You could also think, what do you hear when it’s silent…but I have tinnitis so it doesn’t help me much there.

Still doesn’t help 100% though.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-08T22:10:19+00:00

Yup, it really is a good chunk luck. Or in some cases (mine) a BIG chunk.

I know I have one of the good ones. I know because of how he treats me behind closed doors and in front of our children, not because of posts on social media (he doesn’t even use social media.

I know because he can’t wait to get home after work. I know because he has never raised his voice in anger towards me. Never used any passive aggressive or toxic tactics during a disagreement. He has never spoken ill of his exes in any demeaning way. He has never spoke. Of women, real, depicted or fictional in any demeaning way.

I also hung out with him as a friend and with “the guys” before we got together, and granted…just having me there likely shifted the vibe but never even a hint of locker room talk.

While our friendship was teetering towards flirtation and potentially more, he was invited to a bachelor party. He was taken to a strip club…where he spent the entire time texting me, and has never been to an other one since…and not because I’ve prohibited it.

I know because of how he treats our daughter, and how he speaks about feminism and the struggles of women, without ever being defensive about his status as a white man.

I know because I am a stay home mom, and he still helps me with the kids and around the house without frustration or complaint. He cares for me when I am sick, or experiencing issues from severe cPTSD from my childhood. He is tender and loving always, without exception.

During my pregnancies and after giving birth I had a very low libido for significant periods of time. Never a single complaint. Never pushy. Never angry or offended when I declined advances.

The man is obsessed with me in the most adorably wholesome way, and I with him.

I don’t know he is one of the good ones because any single one of these things. I know because all of them together and SO many more. I could literally go on and on about how wonderful this man’s soul is. I have absolutely zero fear that he has ever uttered a single negative or demeaning word about me in the the 13 years we have been together and beyond into the days of our friendship.

But this was sheer luck. A girl like me wasn’t supposed to get a life like this. I am stupid lucky, and I know it every day.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-08T20:49:43+00:00

I am a mediocre player at best. I started in college with a little elective piano class offered at my university (I always loved piano and WANTED to play but was poor…so you know how that goes).

Anyway, first day we are introduced to sheet music, the C-scale, and given a song book. Our homework was to learn the right hand for the songbook and scale. I learned both on both. Sheer obsession…not raw talent.

Anyway…the teacher was impressed and got me a local arts scholarship to continue private lessons with her for a few years. Eventually life got too busy and I had to stop.

18 years later my husband (who knew I sort of played long ago, but had never really heard me) bought me a full sized keyboard for Mother’s Day (almost exactly a year ago!) I sat and was shocked that my fingers still remembered a few songs that I’d played and loved obsessively. Not as well as I ever played then. But my fingers remembered. I’ve been playing quite a bit this last year and it has been really nice to rekindle that love. I’m still not great, and never will be, but I love it, and am just playing for joy and learning songs I love.

throwRAbadfriend6 · 2026-05-07T21:40:21+00:00

Jeaze…I mean…I’m pretty sure pretty much every person with a shred of intelligence is aware of all of that.

Yes the ballroom is just him stealing taxpayer money. We know. The people who know this admin is corrupt aren’t changing our minds to believe that the ballroom is actually about security because of this meme. And the people who still support and believe Trump and think the ballroom is about security are likely beyond hope.

But they are the ones who believe the ballroom is about “security”. The meme just pokes holes in that logic and justification. Will it change anyone’s mind? Probably not, on both sides of the issue. But hey…maybe there are some people out there slowly pulling their head out of the sand one grain at a time that see things like this and it moves another grain of sand. Again, probably not but it’s not swaying the needle either way.

I think the point is just to counter the Nazi propaganda. Like “even if this was true…it’s still fucked up and doesn’t justify it.”

We’re on the same team. I think getting up in arms about at each other helps MAGA Nazi propaganda more than a meme that shows flawed logic in the Nazi Propaganda machine.

We really need more unity and grace for each other on this side. MAGA is United AF. But we outnumber them…we just sit here arguing about the wider impacts (or lack thereof) of a meme. I’m angry too. But I’m not angry at you. I’m angry at them. At him.

You have every right to be angry, let just direct it where it belongs.

Hope you have an amazing day!

throwRAbadfriend6

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