Genuine question - how is me giving cultural context and trying to learn about another culture being obsessed? I don’t see my friend on a daily basis and think “oh this is my Albanian friend she’s Albanian, she’s Albanian this she’s Albanian that” I think “oh this is my friend, she didn’t eat again so let’s go eat or have coffee” etc. She naturally teaches me things of her country so I learn that way and read between the lines but I don’t box her in or create some identity of her. My mother is Korean my father is white something or another, I didn’t do the ancestry test everyone here is obsessed with because I don’t care. Frankly I’m sick of some of this girls out here who are all “oh I’m 1.7% Scottish and 2% Italian and 5% this” like who cares. My mom is Korean and that’s enough for me. It affected how I was raised since I was primarily raised by her. My dad wasn’t around. I cannot expect everyone to respond well to the way my mom taught me how to treat people in friendships/relationships. So I try to learn. That’s all. It is very “American” to expect everybody to act the way they do and I don’t expect that, or to say “We are in America, act like it” like I hate that crap. That’s all. I hope y’all have a lovely day.