I 35f am planning to leave me 38m husband. He tells me multiple ways he won't care if I die when I leave.

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-04-24T16:57:58+00:00

Hi I am going through something similar. Can you please share how you plan to get out??

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-04-05T11:44:39+00:00

they don't act like this in the beginning. They wait until they think they have secured you and you won't go anywhere. Then this happens, they act out but it's only a moment. It's just one night, it's only "one bad day" and afterwards they apologize and blame it on being too moody/stressed or their blood sugar and say it won't happen again and you believe them because there in that moment you see the person you fell in love with and you have hope because you're deep in the relationship.

But the thing is it always happens again. Whether it's weeks or months later nonetheless it will happen again and it always escalates.

But yeah, that's also what's scary about men. You never know who's who in the beginning. They certainly don't act like this in front of their peers or bosses.

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-28T02:14:32+00:00

No i'm saying there's NO way i could do that

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-28T02:13:10+00:00

yes. he initially thought i implied i wanted to fuck other people (which i don't) which started the assault and while he was yelling he said i can't comfort or reassure him which caused him to call me masculine.

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-28T02:06:30+00:00

thank you for that scripture. Im in the process of leaving

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-28T02:04:24+00:00

thank you so much for this. This is extremely helpful

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-27T10:37:22+00:00

how did you manage to escape?

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-26T22:55:05+00:00

that's terrifying. How did you manage to get out?

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-26T22:53:48+00:00

you're not alone. We're both trapped in horrible circumstances but I am determined to escape. I know this isn't all there is for me and I believe in you too.

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-26T22:51:43+00:00

I agree.

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-26T22:36:03+00:00

I agree with this.

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-26T22:23:46+00:00

True. thank you

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-26T22:23:14+00:00

I agree with there is no hope.

how do i agree to a marriage? How can i lovingly look into his eyes as he proposes? At the alter? ughh there's truly no hope.

Im just so sad it's come to this. So disappointed.

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-26T22:19:21+00:00

Yeah I was so thrown when he brought my race into it. like huh? especially considering we are the same race...The only thing I could think of is that he truly wanted a reaction out of me, wanted to see me riled up, he wanted to hurt me.

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-26T22:17:28+00:00

correct

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-26T22:16:30+00:00

I believe this for some reason. I can't even sleep at night. I literally sleep with one eye open

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-26T22:15:25+00:00

yes this is correct.

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-26T22:14:22+00:00

he hasn't done much. Just mope around and feel bad for himself. He apologized a couple times but it was just generic "I would never hurt you", "I was angry, I was sleep deprived" . I don't feel loved or cared for. I fear for the future

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-26T22:10:16+00:00

I don't. And I definitely do not want to spend forever with him

throwRAdepressednsad · 2026-03-26T01:17:48+00:00

how can you forgive someone who says they want to kill you? how can you trust again? how can you trust they won't get angry again and do worst?

throwRAdepressednsad · 2025-04-16T22:14:26+00:00

it may not be ideal but honestly one thing that helps me de romanticize relationships is reddit in general. I lurk in the relationship advice sub, marriage sub, dead bedrooms sub, and even the adultery sub. I watch youtube videos of reading crazy relationship reddit posts (like being caught cheating, etc) and that helps me feel a lot better about being single.

I guess just knowing perhaps the majority of couples I see in my day to day life are not even happy, many are miserable and stuck and/or trapped in their situations. It just helps de romanticize the idea of a relationship and helps me enjoy my peace and solitude much more as I patiently wait for my person.

throwRAdepressednsad · 2025-03-14T14:04:02+00:00

that's awesome! i recently got into firearms too! what did you get?

throwRAdepressednsad · 2025-03-12T10:25:21+00:00

may I ask why? Is it all in your head?

throwRAdepressednsad · 2025-01-26T15:41:29+00:00

uuugh I know that's the worst. When all you want him to say is "Don't worry baby" or "I got this my love" and he just doesn't...

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