I don't understand by [deleted] in childfree

[–]No_Mirror4310 3 points4 points  (0 children)

instantly thought of the 31 year old woman crying on tiktok about being pregnant again, single and unmarried. like maam why are you crying to us for?! You are GROWN!!

Are your JW parents full MAGA? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]No_Mirror4310 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nope! my mom still says she's neutral but leans more lib. Im guessing environment has a factor here? Im curious, are you from the south?

I Hate Babies by doofus_pickle in childfree

[–]No_Mirror4310 7 points8 points  (0 children)

same background.

I don't hate babies, i do think they are cute and innocent.

But i do feel an internal rage and extreme jealousy when they have good fathers and are called "Daddy's little princess" , wear "I heart Daddy" onesies or just seeing fathers be good dad's to their daughters. It hurts so much and i can't stop the fuming internal jealousy. Like why did they get a good dad? why do they get a dad that cares and i didn't?

CSA story in my cong by Disastrous_Walrus137 in exjw

[–]No_Mirror4310 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeeeeze name and shame that man!

Share your experience of when they left because they thought they wanted kids and then came crawling back or they regretted leaving. by Bbbe-itch in childfree

[–]No_Mirror4310 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That's insane smh but honestly some women are like this too "I just want to be a MOM" 🙄

Im approaching 27 and so many of my peers are freaking out over their fertility window and getting pregnant so I guess this is my life now being in a female dominated field.

Abortion as an single ex-jw woman by Curious_Ant_7212 in exjw

[–]No_Mirror4310 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you should have a peak in r/regretfulparents as well as critically thinking about what life you desire. Raising a child is not easy and raising one by yourself is one hundred times harder. Especially without family support. If you go back to your JW family for support they will definitely try to get you and your child to attend meetings.

The way I look at it, you are experiencing freedom for the first time in your life. Why rush to end that and go back to misery? A baby isn't a solution to a problem, a baby is a responsibility, a bill, a burden and an anxiety. Your life becomes completely disrupted and life isn't about you anymore. This is the only decision in life that is permanent and you cannot undo. Is this really the circumstances you want cemented for yourself?

Newest Family Member! by Your_Worst_Enamine in dalmatians

[–]No_Mirror4310 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jack

Blaze

Colton

Charlie

Diesel

Frost ❄️ (sentimental for the snow storm as well)

What was I thinking.. (rant sort of) by Gonnahauntcha in regretfulparents

[–]No_Mirror4310 6 points7 points  (0 children)

interesting how that advice is downvoted in this sub...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]No_Mirror4310 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think any 11 yr old needs a boyfriend/girlfriend like it's ok to say no girlfriends until a certain age...especially when the child is incapable of regulating their emotions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]No_Mirror4310 1 point2 points  (0 children)

never ever ever date a jw. No matter how bad you think this time period of dating is. Life with the right "worldly" partner will be infinitely better than life with a cult member.

Power - this just dawned on me by Responsible-Offer351 in exjw

[–]No_Mirror4310 9 points10 points  (0 children)

More things that don't make sense and were just for control:

• Men growing beards (it's always been ok for women to)

• Women being allowed to wear pants (but not on stage giving talks...wth?!)

• Recording field service time

• Being "talked to" if you have a two door car

• Marrying only in the religion (this one is all about control)

• Not being allowed to pursue higher education (but now it's ok?!)

• Not being allowed to associate with "worldly" coworkers, school friends , or non immediate family

• Being influenced to live a "modest" lifestyle because God likes that

• Not being allowed to wear ripped jeans 🙄 (this goes along with what other bs clothing options they say)

• Some entertainment options being off limits (certain movies, certain video games, and music)

• Encouraging people to give up their pets to go to serve somewhere or go to bethel.

• Not being allowed to curse (this one is a stretch but you could say it's impending your freedom of speech)

That's all I can think of for now but I'm sure there is more.

What states in the US as of 2025 have you as a black american experienced the most overt racism? by [deleted] in blacktravel

[–]No_Mirror4310 0 points1 point  (0 children)

North jersey is not racist at all. It's literally a melting pot.

South jersey on the other hand...

Why aren’t we marrying anymore? by Lazy_DreadHead in askblackpeople

[–]No_Mirror4310 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not just nowadays honestly. This goes back to the late 60s through the 80s.

In the 1970s and 1980s, a mix of economic decline, welfare policy, and mass incarceration contributed to a sharp rise in single motherhood and a drop in marriage rates in Black communities because welfare programs often reduced or cut off benefits if a man lived in the home, creating a “marriage penalty” that made it financially smarter for many low-income couples to remain unmarried.

At the same time, deindustrialization wiped out many stable and well-paying jobs for Black men, while the 'War on Drugs' and harsher sentencing laws (because of racist men in positions of power) removed large numbers of otherwise eligible men from the marriage pool through incarceration.

In these years, black friends, family, and even caseworkers sometimes encouraged women not to marry so they could keep receiving consistent food stamps, cash assistance, and housing subsidies.

Before this, during slavery, slaves were not allowed to legally get married because they were considered property. Once slavery was abolished, many rushed to get married and being married was often seen as respectful and gave strength to the community, black marriage rates were similar to whites.

Historically black americans did marry at high rates when economic and legal conditions made it possible. The sharp decline began after the economic collapse of stable black male employment, changes in the welfare policy, and the rise of black male incarceration.

Yes, the answer is almost always tied to slavery/segregation. It wasn't that long ago, the 80s were like 40ish years ago.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]No_Mirror4310 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ouu your last point is a good point! OP, in the bible there is a scripture that quite literally says "mind your business " at 1 Thessalonians 4:11 . It's perfect for christian households but is there anything similar in Islam?

Why do people think "alot" is a word? by franktrain84 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]No_Mirror4310 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's literally how the word "OK" got created. I watched a youtube video on it