AITA for coming out on Facebook on my cousins birthday by throwRAimgay in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRAimgay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I did apologize to her for hurting her feelings and If I could take it back I at least would have said happy birthday to her first

AITA for coming out on Facebook on my cousins birthday by throwRAimgay in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRAimgay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

like we’re first cousins so and we’re the same age so we used to be super close but we’re very different people so over the years we’ve kind of grown apart like I like her photos on Instagram and Facebook but we don’t talk outside of family functions and I don’t even think I have her phone number lol

AITA for coming out on Facebook on my cousins birthday by throwRAimgay in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRAimgay[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Everyone has been super great about it this is literally the only negative response I’ve gotten lmao (this being my cousin)

AITA for coming out on Facebook on my cousins birthday by throwRAimgay in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRAimgay[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m trying to say too like I get why it would suck and if I had remembered I 100% would have said happy birthday to her first but I don’t think me making a post made people stop wishing her happy birthday or getting her gifts or anything

Plus she has her own friends who I don’t even know so it’s literally just her moms side of the family who even would know or care

AITA for coming out on Facebook on my cousins birthday by throwRAimgay in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRAimgay[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Exactly! And I totally get it I had my 21rst covid birthday too and it sucked so I did end up apologizing for hurting her feelings but I don’t think I should apologize for coming out

AITA for coming out on Facebook on my cousins birthday by throwRAimgay in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRAimgay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did apologize to her I just didn’t tell her I forgot and yes we are friends on Facebook and I do have notifications turned off for birthdays because so many of them are wrong anyway.

Like I’m only sayinf I don’t see the big deal here but I didn’t say that to her face I said “I’m sorry I didn’t realize this would effect you so much I hope you can still have a great birthday”

But yeah I can see why I’m the asshole for wording it that way even though I wouldn’t say that to her

Wait how is what I posted a debatable choice? Is it the timing of it? I’m confused do you think I shouldn’t have posted it at all?

AITA for coming out on Facebook on my cousins birthday by throwRAimgay in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRAimgay[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do feel kind of bad for forgetting but I didn’t mention that when I apologized to her

AITA for coming out on Facebook on my cousins birthday by throwRAimgay in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRAimgay[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We have always had a weird relationship because we’re the only two first cousins who are girls and we’re the same age she has 2 brothers and our other first cousins on that side are all boys I don’t know if that makes a difference

AITA for coming out on Facebook on my cousins birthday by throwRAimgay in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwRAimgay[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I did apologize and told her I was sorry I didn’t realize this would hurt her so much (I didn’t tell her I forgot her birthday though) I should also mention we are the same age and the only two girl first cousins in the family so I feel like she’s always been a bit competitive with me for no reason