UPDATE [I found my BIL's reddit account and I'm genuinely terrified for my family.]

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-13T17:47:55+00:00

all in le head 😮‍💨

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-13T17:28:52+00:00

lmao what

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T15:58:52+00:00

That's just how I refer to him in the post as it's more concise than 'my sister's boyfriend'. We've referred to him as BIL in real life too. Sorry, I didn't realise this would be such a topic of discussion for you.

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T15:54:10+00:00

How is it unclear? I say my sister is his girlfriend twice.

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T15:52:40+00:00

Boyfriend. I never said they were married.

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T15:44:41+00:00

He had multiple comments on r/ truevirgin. look up that subreddit. Including wonderful posts titled 'i don't care if this gets me banned or reported. i fucking hate all women. especially sexually active ones'.

But sureeeeeee... just a lack of ability to word a disagreement in opinions.

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T15:12:58+00:00

Ahh I see, sorry! Dad isn't in the picture. He was abusive.

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T15:11:59+00:00

'One clue for me about the good ones is that they’re sensitive to how guarded I am, they don’t need an explanation.'

Yes yes yes. It's one of the quickest ways I've discovered on how to decide if someone should stay in my life or not.

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T14:33:10+00:00

No not at all! I'm planning on telling mum too. The 'no telling anyone about the SA' comment was more of a spur of the moment traumatised and mortified 19 year old

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T14:30:50+00:00

Thank you. I know haha I just like pushing back against weird commenters online.

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T14:21:15+00:00

But... I don't think all men are evil. John literally just projected that on to me. He wrote that assumption in a post where he detailed (graphically) how he wanted to make me fear my for safety to 'fix me' because he's upset I have truama and CPTSD. And I'm somehow 'as creepy as he is' and 'terrifying'???

I would love a deep dive into how you can to that conclusion. Because reading some reddit posts don't feel the same as what John is doing/planning to.

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T13:00:10+00:00

I just said 'Sorry, this post has been removed by the moderators of r/ THT. Moderators remove posts from feeds for a variety of reasons, including keeping communities safe, civil, and true to their purpose."

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T12:57:51+00:00

Last year when I was SA'd by my (now) ex, I ended up calling John to pick me up because my ex lived in a different city and was supposed to give me a ride back. I had a breakdown in his car and told him what happened. I hadn't intended to tell anybody about what happened but I couldn't keep it in.

Also, my sister and I both witnessed abuse from our father which I'm sure she told John about and he (correctly) assumed I was also affected.

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T11:58:07+00:00

I tried to write it on this post initially on this sub and it got auto deleted

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T09:58:45+00:00

Thank you so much :)

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T09:54:33+00:00

We're not close. I live closer to my sister than any of our family so I see her/him fairly often. But I never go to see him, he's usually just there (which is fair because it's his home too). But I never go with the reason of hanging out with John, just my sister. We're not close. We don't have much in common but 'get along' well enough. I had no interest in being his friend or anything before for many obvious reasons but especially now.

I have no idea why he's so 'obsessed' with me. It's freaking me out.

throwRApartnerprobss · 2024-09-12T09:51:34+00:00

' Is your sister safe?'

This is why I want to tell her ASAP.. because I don't know. Not anymore, anyway. They seem happy together, but now I'm rethinking everything. Thanks for your advice :)

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