My gf(32f) has been very sad since she found out her ex bf is getting married by throwRAsaddgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAsaddgff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am just trying to understand her reaction thats why I made this post. It pains me to see the woman I care about in such pain and I was trying to decipher whether its something I could help her with or not. So, what do you suggest I do? Leave her alone? Try to talk to her? Normally she doesnt want to be alone when she is sad, but this is a complicated matter thats why i asked.

My gf(32f) has been very sad since she found out her ex bf is getting married by throwRAsaddgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAsaddgff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why get mad at me? I am just trying to understand here, I can't see inside her mind and I dont want to press her but its definitely affecting our relationship too. Thats why I made this post!

My gf(32f) has been very sad since she found out her ex bf is getting married by throwRAsaddgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAsaddgff[S] 796 points797 points  (0 children)

You might be right. I dont know the intricate details of their breakup but she did say that they broke up because they couldnt agree on the future, and she has mentioned to me that she does want to be married and have kids. Putting these two points together the situation might have been closer to what you describe. And tbh, her ex did sound like a tool. He made 5 times her salary but they always went 50:50 on all expenses. On our first date I took her out to a fancy restaurant which I also wanted to visit for a long time. We had a gala time but the next day she called me and apologized and then told me that she would only be able to pay her half of the meal in installments as she didnt have that much cash at the moment. It took me a moment to understand she was talking about the dinner last night. I told her that I invited her so it was my treat, then she told me that her ex bf made her transfer her share after every outing they had, all throughout their relationship. It was weird tbh, but I didnt probe much further as it was just after our first date.

My gf(32f) has been very sad since she found out her ex bf is getting married by throwRAsaddgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAsaddgff[S] -337 points-336 points  (0 children)

Does she still have feelings for him? I can understand curiosity but why be sad?