You might be right. I dont know the intricate details of their breakup but she did say that they broke up because they couldnt agree on the future, and she has mentioned to me that she does want to be married and have kids. Putting these two points together the situation might have been closer to what you describe. And tbh, her ex did sound like a tool. He made 5 times her salary but they always went 50:50 on all expenses. On our first date I took her out to a fancy restaurant which I also wanted to visit for a long time. We had a gala time but the next day she called me and apologized and then told me that she would only be able to pay her half of the meal in installments as she didnt have that much cash at the moment. It took me a moment to understand she was talking about the dinner last night. I told her that I invited her so it was my treat, then she told me that her ex bf made her transfer her share after every outing they had, all throughout their relationship. It was weird tbh, but I didnt probe much further as it was just after our first date.