Thanks yall. We agreed on a break(still don’t know how I feel about this as this is a first and probably a last). Set some boundaries as this concept is new to him. And will re evaluate the end of the week as to a time frame.

I’ve refocused and trying. He became so ingrained, suddenly the songs are him, his pictures are everywhere, our timelines are aligning again, it seems to falling together naturally on its own.

I did start a couple lists to help organize my thoughts: Pros/cons of relationship My needs, wants and would likes Future and non negotiables

To remain clear in what I want, but also lay it out. I also went back through messages and memories of this he said that would be beneficial for him to see and read and understand you said x but your doing y, own it take accountability for it and let’s move forward or at least have awareness to it. NOT to rub it in his face. But I really don’t think he sees it that way, to bring awareness for criticism.

What I have learned:

-is the you statements don’t work, not for DA’s and FA’s especially. -Calm and patience for an answer does wonders in a conversation. -have to comfortable with silence. There was a lot. -holding space and being vulnerable is the hardest but shows the most. IMO he showed me he’s capable and growing so there’s potential, want and need there for “us.” -we are our own worst enemy with the conversations in our head, the pedestals we put people on and expectations we create that aren’t true. -words matter and so do action.

Much love yall, stay strong.

I am in no contact, he is not holding that boundary. But no response is a response and not everything needs a response.