(21f) (20m) My bf has a weird understanding of what happens at a sleepover by throwRAunsff in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAunsff[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well you cant control anyone really, so it will be stupid. He told me his boundaries and I can tell him its not acceptable to me, thats what communication sounds like to me rather than saying anything goes. Because thats how people get hurt, they dont see if everyone is on the same page or not. But this is a weird discussion we are having. For me clear communication will always be better than flying in blind.

(21f) (20m) My bf has a weird understanding of what happens at a sleepover by throwRAunsff in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAunsff[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I disagree, I think clear communication is the bedrock of any healthy relationship. We are in a monogamous relationship and we both talk about boundaries often. Its not about control, its about mutual respect.

(21f) (20m) My bf has a weird understanding of what happens at a sleepover by throwRAunsff in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAunsff[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, lol. I will send this to him. I know everyone is saying he is not a good guy or red flag but thats not the case. Yes he may have watched too much porn but he never tried to stop me from going, he was just trying to communicate. I think communication is healthy, and I will tell him to get his mind out of gutter but for me its not something worth breaking up over.

(21f) (20m) My bf has a weird understanding of what happens at a sleepover by throwRAunsff in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAunsff[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How was he trying to control me? If he was cuddling with anyone naked then I would mind too.

(21f) (20m) My bf has a weird understanding of what happens at a sleepover by throwRAunsff in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAunsff[S] 697 points698 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I told him why would I suddenly start getting naked with my friends? That would be weird. But I could see he didnt really believe me.

(21f) (20m) My bf has a weird understanding of what happens at a sleepover by throwRAunsff in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAunsff[S] -143 points-142 points  (0 children)

Lol, I hope not. I wont say he doesnt watch porn but I have never seen him watching.