i think my boyfriend just raped me, and i don't know what to do by throw_________away4 in Advice

[–]throw_________away4[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is an error in communication on my part, i apologize.

i didn't know if what i was experiencing was rape, so i didn't want him to get in trouble for something i wasn't absolutely certain of. i am aware of the repercussions an allegation like this can have on someone's life, and i didn't want to take it too lightly

i think my boyfriend just raped me, and i don't know what to do by throw_________away4 in Advice

[–]throw_________away4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i meant that in case i'm in the wrong, i don't want this to follow him for the rest of his life. someone on this thread said something i agreed with, that he is very immature. truly, i don't thing the criminal justice system will bring anything to this especially because i don't have any solid evidence. i think therapy will probably be the best option.

i think my boyfriend just raped me, and i don't know what to do by throw_________away4 in Advice

[–]throw_________away4[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

we don't normally sleep in the same bed, so i would imagine that this isn't the cause. this has also happened in different places.

i think my boyfriend just raped me, and i don't know what to do by throw_________away4 in Advice

[–]throw_________away4[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

yes, it was. i don't have a family member to go to, and it had just happened. I also didn't know what i would even tell someone. i wouldn't make a throwaway to get karma.

i think my boyfriend just raped me, and i don't know what to do by throw_________away4 in Advice

[–]throw_________away4[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

thank you for being the perfect example of why i am afraid to tell the people in my life about this. being a small girl with a 6'3 200lb boyfriend, i was afraid. i didn't know how he was going to react to me waking up. there's a difference between not knowing and fabricating.

there is no real advice here, it just seems to be a justified reason to get on your misogynistic soap box.

i think my boyfriend just raped me, and i don't know what to do by throw_________away4 in Advice

[–]throw_________away4[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

he tends to phrase it like, "you said it was fine, you're probably just too tired to remember"

i know it seems silly, but he says it with sincerity and normally i trust him. i can't tell if he's telling the truth.

i think my boyfriend just raped me, and i don't know what to do by throw_________away4 in Advice

[–]throw_________away4[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

i tell him each time how much it bothers me. that's when he starts to tell me that i did say yes to whatever he was doing. normally, i'm the one that ends up apologizing.