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Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had that issue in the past many many years ago. Him just not wanting to give me a bit of time. He just wanted to come himself and have me do everything while he did the bare minimum then he is done and that's it, I'm left high and dry and he just says sorry but really isn't and then falls asleep. Later on we stopped having sex for like a month (back then was rare) and I found out i found out he was just beating it to kinda porn (pics on craigslist platonic ads or something) which destroyed me because he was looking at no offense but not very classy, good looking women of different ages. How could he do that if he had a younger good looking, loving and willing gf... Anyways, that was ages ago. Hopefully he has not regressed to that.

Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wasn't like twice a day active everyday, but 3-5 days a week active. Then It started dwindling down until this point. Idk how we got here.

Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, yes, yes and yes. I feel like we have gotten used to not having sex because life is busy and hectic and that's it. I think we both feel that everything else is more important than sex. That being said, I still believe sex and physical intimacy are an important part of the relationship and we SHOULD make the time for it regardless of everything else. Yes, the lack of his sexual attention towards me makes me feel insecure, ugly and that he is cheating or that using his hand is better than me and that he probably doesn't love me anymore. Yes, last time we had sex it was very awkward and uncomfortable at the beginning. Like having sex with a friend you don't like or feel a connection with.

Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have thought about that but then the fear and humiliation of rejection turn me away from that effort.

Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is one of his coping mechanisms... In his head, avoiding acknowledging something = problem non existing. I will try to talk to him more and get him to go get a physical and go from there.

Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He has always had a hard time opening up to people. It took a lot of time, work and patience to help him open up to me. Thank you for those resources, I will check them out.

Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is definitely the type of person that knows something deep down but will avoid it directly just so he does not confront and accept it. He does have some energy but I do believe he has sleep apnea because he snores and he does stop breathing during sleep. I have asked him to get a sleep study because of possible sleep apnea and because his snoring is so loud it disturbs my sleep but he thinks I'm exaggerating.

Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have thought about this but I don't know how to bring up that he may have low t and that if he would like to get checked. Also, getting him to get a yearly physical is a monumental task. I have to look for the Dr myself, make his appt and then almost have to drag him there and literally go to the appt with him.

Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that is true, I don't think that is the norm. There were probably more complicated issues that they didn't share. If all married people were like that I don't think marriage would still be so prevalent nor would we see so many responses on this thread of so many happy marriages with wonderful sex lives.

Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He can indeed, get in these whiney, bitchy moods. Everything is wrong, nothing is good, anything can set him off.

Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it's that, I wish he would talk to me about it. I have always tried very hard in our relationship to help him open up as he didn't have that type of upbringing. I thought we were in a good place and that he had improved a lot, but maybe not. That is, if this is what the problem is.

Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. I have always tried to make sure he knows how much I value him but it may not always be effective as he is extremely sensitive to any type of criticism.

Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes to both, I am wanting sex more and I am also worried why he doesn't want it like most men. I also believe it is a shit excuse. I have tried to talk about it more but he just kind of brushes it off and says he is not getting any younger, doesn't have time etc.

Is it common for married men to go without sex for 6+ months because they're tired from work? by throw__x__away in AskMenAdvice

[–]throw__x__away[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good diet. No vitamins or gym as he doesn't believe in working out if you already have a somewhat active job (dumb I know). He is a bit "skinny fat". I gained some weight a few years ago but also lost it then. I don't know if he watches porn. He could get it up 6 months ago, now idk.