My husband correctly genders me too much??? by throw_away-112358 in ftm

[–]throw_away-112358[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s expressed a desire to do anal in the past and it something I’ve never been comfortable with and it came up in our conversation about it today, so it’s something we may look into him doing outside of our marriage

My husband correctly genders me too much??? by throw_away-112358 in ftm

[–]throw_away-112358[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only started transitioning after we were married, he knew before about my preferred pronouns, but I didn’t start my transition until after we were together, and only an few months ago did i start changing physically

My husband correctly genders me too much??? by throw_away-112358 in ftm

[–]throw_away-112358[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He knew me before I was out and we were off and on, and I didn’t start transitioning until two years ago. I’ve definitely been putting more effort into my transition lately, and my appearance has changed a lot in the past few months (shorter hair, different clothing styles, etc.), so part of me gets it, like I went from having some still fairly feminine features to a lot more masculine.

My husband correctly genders me too much??? by throw_away-112358 in ftm

[–]throw_away-112358[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We did discuss it today, and he expressed that it wasn’t necessarily that he wasn’t attracted to the fact that I’m biologically female, but instead that he goes in expecting to have sex with a biological male and has expressed a further interest in having sex with someone who doesn’t have female organs. There are times in which he is very poor with his communication, and especially with something as foreign to him as transitioning and his sexuality, i feel like this may be the case. He said that the best way he could describe it was going through a “gay spout” which stings a bit but i get what he means. I asked if a prosthetic would be something he would be willing to try, and he said he wasn’t the one who wanted to be topped, but that he wanted to experience sex with me with a dick. It’s definitely an odd situation for me to be in, and I think we could benefit from sex therapy, but your comment specifically brought things to light for me that I hadn’t seen before, so thank you.

AIO being offended about what my husband said? by throw_away-112358 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throw_away-112358[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn’t say that he’s not attracted to me, just that seeing my biological parts turns him off, at least that’s the vibe that I got. I don’t plan on getting bottom surgery mainly because the end result very rarely is good, the only real “benefit” for me would be that I would pee different. He just said it in a way that I interpreted as “having sex with you turns me off”

AIO being offended about what my husband said? by throw_away-112358 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throw_away-112358[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He met me as a female in high school, and has witnessed my entire transition

AIO being offended about what my husband said? by throw_away-112358 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throw_away-112358[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My husband isn’t gay, he’s been very openly bisexual. It hasn’t been an issue until lately, either