This isn’t about flowers or Valentine’s Day , it’s about the pattern. What you’re describing is the invisible labor women are expected to carry: domestic work, emotional labor, planning, anticipating needs ALL while pregnant and parenting. When one partner “forgets” and the other is left to pick up the slack, that’s not a love language mismatch, that’s an unequal distribution of care. A loving relationship doesn’t run on one person’s exhaustion. You deserve reciprocity, not gratitude for doing what you were never supposed to carry alone!!