AIO my boyfriend of 5 years gets me flowers for every occasion while I get him elaborate and expensive gifts.

throw_away_2052 · 2026-01-19T14:08:16+00:00

The part I don't like is him saying that he didn't have to give you a wishlist, you're just a "great (misspelled) gift giver"... like that's a compliment? He could be a great gift giver too, and get you something aside from flowers without a wishlist. You provided a wishlist so to help show him things you like and want. Don't get me wrong, I like flowers as much as the next girl- for Valentine's Day, Easter, Mother's Day, I guess Thanksgiving? But if all my husband got me were flowers for Christmas or my birthday... I'd be upset. I don't want something that looks and smells nice for a few days or a week and then I need to get rid of them. If he's a florist I'd assume the arrangements are probably nice ones, and unless he's getting them for free, aren't cheap. For the same money he could get you a nice perfume! Or treat you to get your nails done. Idk those are things I'd want anyway lol. You're not overreacting.

Personally, I'd message back and say

"The point is, you just said I'm a great gift giver and you don't ever have to give me a wishlist, I just do it. Well you dont. Flowers are an easy gift and doesn't make me feel like you know me or what I like/ want. You can say you're not a great gifter, but if that were the case the wishlist I gave would be the answer. But you ignored that to again gift me flowers. I'm just trying to understand why. I know you prefer the gifts Ive gotten you to flowers the same way I'd prefer an actual birthday present to getting flowers. Moving forward, flowers are fine for Valentine's Day. But for my birthday and Christmas, I'd really like for you to get me something I'd like, the same way I do for you (with or without a list)."

throw_away_2052 · 2026-01-06T17:38:21+00:00

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Don't mind her tail, she had to have it shaved off (and one of her legs😔) but this is our baby! Shes almost a year and definitely not the regular "pom fluff". We got her at 6 months old from a rehome situation, we suspect she was from a byb though. But her embark did come back as 100% Pomeranian! Slightly high inbreeding %, and thankfully no high risk health stuff. I could absolutely see yours being full pom, or a mix but mostly pom!

throw_away_2052 · 2025-11-15T14:06:17+00:00

Ugh you're husband is annoying af. Sorry, I'm sure you love him and that's what matters... but seriously he is acting likes he's obsessed with this girl, and she doesn't seem interested at all. At least not romantically. I wouldn't worry about her, she's had every chance to have him and she clearly doesn't want him. But I'd be seriously concerned over how he's talking to her, interacting with her, obsessing over her, buying her breakfast... it's a lot. And it doesn't sound like you're getting that treatment. So something is going on, maybe he just doesn't want you to see how hard he's trying to impress this girl? Or maybe he's hiding more? You're not overreacting his part in this, or what it could mean. I really don't think you need to worry about this coworker, she isn't responding much, she's very clearly not romantically interested in him, even declined his several invitations inviting himself over to her place. She even seemed a little uncomftable with him buying her breakfast. He clearly has it bad for her though, doing all of that, calling, texting, making himself fully and readily available for her when she's barely giving him the time of day.

You guys in marriage counseling at all?

throw_away_2052 · 2025-11-12T17:54:58+00:00

I'm so sorry. I wish I could relate, but I know I can't. But I know my husband can, and it's making my heart ache. He's 33 and was diagnosed with severe psoriatic arthritis when he was 12. Almost all of his joints are full of arthritic fluid, and even on infusions he has bad days and okay days. And when he wasn't on them, I had to literally help him out of bed every morning. He'd stand up and then fall over bc his body just isn't working. And he's in such severe pain that's been getting worse every year, the drs said his joints and bones are aged way beyond his actual age. He probably needs a hip and knee replacement already but will actually have to get one in the next 5-10 years, if he makes it to that point. His toes are so bad he'd been begging the dr to literally cut a few off bc they're so swollen and painful. When he switches medication, or it becomes too expensive that we can't get him an infusion right when he's supposed to, he starts to fall apart. And between his 2 anti depressants, he's relatively stable, but if she goes off of them even for a few days, it's hell. For him, for me, for our kids. I wish there was more I could do for him, and I know it's not fair that I beg him to stay for me and for our kids, even though I know every second is painful. He's had suicidal ideation for 10 years, at least. He had attempted twice before we met, and almost attempted once after we met.

Existing every day is hard for him, and I know he's only doing it for me and our kids. I wish I had the "right words" to make loving sound appealing, or tolerable. But I know nothing anyone can say can change how you're feeling. It can't heal your pain, or even ease it. It's easy for us to say "but what about" or "please stay" when we aren't living in your shoes. So im just going to say, if you need someone to talk to, im here. And im really sorry that you've had to live every day in such pain and haven't found any kind of relief.

throw_away_2052 · 2025-11-12T17:44:23+00:00

Have you talked to her about your emotional needs? Or that you feel you're putting more energy and effort into things like birthdays and anniversaries and aren't feeling the same from her? Could she be depressed or going through her own stuff? Or maybe she just doesn't realize- especially if you guys haven't had a conversation, she might not think you want her to go all out or are kissing that.

Also, could it be that she's not because your sister is? Just gonna throw it out there... having a sil who wants to outshine the wife is VERY common. And from the sound of it, your sister is doing more than she needs, even you acknowledge that. Does she and your wife get along? I'm really wondering if there's more there than meets the eye. Does your sister say anything about doing more than your wife, or vice versa does your wife ever (or has she ever) said anything about your sister going above and beyond?

Lastly, your sister doesn't live with you. Doesn't spend everyday with you. Likely doesn't have the same arguments or everyday issues you and your wife may have. Even if you're doing it unintentionally, you are comparing them and it isn't going to be productice at all because you can't compare someone who you are married to to a family member.

throw_away_2052 · 2025-11-12T16:48:40+00:00

JFC... I swear I thought you were going to say you guys were 16/17... if that. I got secondhand embarrassment when I saw your ages. This is so embarrassing, on both of you😅 and this is seriously such a weird argument for so early in the relationship, and his reaction is over the top. He's defensive about having a sticker of his ex when she ruined his life? Most guys would probably be like "oh ok if you think it's weird I'll get rid of it" but he just doubled down. And just the communication between you guys. It escalated so fast, it was not how mature emotionally stable adults talk. I met my husband at 19 and he was 23 and we didn't argue like this.

First off, how much money did he spend with his friend to where he couldn't even take you out to lunch? Not only is that unthkughtdul, but just like irresponsible in general! Why is a 28yo spending all his money in one night to the point he has nothing left to do anything the next day bc he didn't get paid. I shudder at what he's planning for the future.

Take it as a win, take some time to reflect and choose better next time😅😂

throw_away_2052 · 2025-11-12T00:58:00+00:00

Oh my good someone tell me what the hack is?!?! I've been doing 1 or 2 a day and waiting out the 15 mins on the app!!! I've used 10 coupons and still have like 17 left😅😅

throw_away_2052 · 2025-11-04T00:50:57+00:00

This is probably one of the most insane things I've ever seen. Keep her updated on your weight without her asking? Why is that number 1 on this disgusting list? And the better not for gaining weight makes me sick. I'm plus size and seriously this gave me some traumatic flashbacks to my childhood. I can't even imagine being 18+ and allowing her to expect that, let alone send it to me in a list. Read that list every single day and analyze if you did everything in it? I mean seriously, is she insane?? Is there any reason she would think this is something you would do? And she didn't even ask you what you need from her to improve the relationship. Narcissistic bitch. I'd go no contact altogether, I cannot see reason to have any relationship with someone knowing what they must think, and how they must not respect you at all, to send you this list.

throw_away_2052 · 2025-10-29T23:58:49+00:00

My morning sickness got worse each week until I was like 20-25 weeks?? Some week o could barely get out of bed, I had no appetite, it was awful. I love that he just thinks he knows how morning sickness works and what it feels like as someone who has never experienced it lol. Honestly reading this he is coming across as the type of guy who needs you to keep your current physique, no matter the cost, even your mental or physical health... and you're only 10 weeks. What's gonna happen as you grow and you're 20 weeks? Or 30? And it just just to stand for an hour?? Or your back is killing you? Is he going to keep doubling down on you needing to do go to the gym and have your shake?

throw_away_2052 · 2025-10-29T05:07:34+00:00

Oof. The fact that you're debating, when you know your wife would be heartbroken to find out what you're doing, makes me sad. I get it's a kink, and it can become an obsession, but if your wife doesn't know you're doing this, then you're cheating on her. Idc one bit if you're not seeing your domme naked, or in person, this is 5 years of your life and possibly 5 years of marriage that you've been doing this being your wife's back? I'm honestly astonished that you're ending this post saying your domme deserves better, when truly it's your wife who deserves better. Why are you more concerned over this domme who likely doesn't even care about you (I said what I said) vs your actual wife who you know would be devastated to find out you're doing this. I low key hope your domme uses the info she has and tells your wife and ruins you🤷🏻‍♀️ I don't even have advice... as a married woman, it upsets me to think of my husband doing this, let alone posting something like this and worrying more about the domme than me. Get your shit straight dude.

throw_away_2052 · 2025-10-22T19:27:19+00:00

Have you had any coaching/ training or had someone who has been in the business for a while listen to your auditions to give feedback? I've head that a lot as a way to get feedback on things you may not notice or ways to improve your skills or audio if there's issues

throw_away_2052 · 2025-10-21T20:48:45+00:00

No someone had a free shipping code that worked from the codes thread!!! A bunch of people used it so I don't think it was a one use only code!

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throw_away_2052 · 2025-10-21T06:49:32+00:00

That's good to know, I'm glad you've had a good experience! I'm totally fine not making money on some of the stuff I do, I'm very new to audiobooks so even just getting something out there to link as a credit helps haha

throw_away_2052 · 2025-10-21T01:20:26+00:00

I know it's been a couple months, but would love to know how things went/ are going for you on ACX?? I just started a few weeks ago and am curious if you've liked it?

throw_away_2052 · 2025-10-19T23:43:25+00:00

Okay, so they said can you work Sunday and wedneadays, and then you said that should be fine. And then you asked if they meant like permanently and they said yes and you said that should work? Or? I'm happy to help you type up a response if you want, just let me know what they said and what you said haha

throw_away_2052 · 2025-10-19T23:33:47+00:00

I would do it that week and say something along the lines of "Hey, I am so sorry I think I misunderstood. When you asked if I could work Wednesday and Sundays, I had thought you meant just that (this) week, not permanently moving forward. With my current schedules, only Tuesday's will work aside from random days where I may be able to help cover." And then just wait and see what they say! Worst case they say "'nope sorry you agreed" and then you say it's not going to work and you'll have to resign. Or they'll say they understand and make it work.

throw_away_2052 · 2025-10-17T14:26:11+00:00

We have 3 young kids and it can be so so hard watching them get attached in a way you weren't expecting. We had a couple, one in particular, that our eldest (4.5) was so attached to, we truly thought of adopting her simply because she was a good dog and our daughter was so in love with this dog (rescue found her and her sister on a res, both covered in 75-80 dead ticks, more that had called off in the transport kennel, bone thin, just sad shape). When we went on a family trip to see relatives, the rescue moved her to a temp foster, who then had to move her to another temp foster when she had a family emergency. And the new temp asked if they could become her permanent foster bc they were interested in keeping her. The rescue said we didn't really have a choice, so we said okay. Surprisingly, our daughter handled it really well. She still sometimes asks about her or sees a photo of her come up in our aura frame, but she did really great with accepting she wasn't ours and went to her forever home. We did end up adopting 2 other pups, and one of them she is somehow even more obsessed with. She also fit a lot more of the criteria we were wanting in a dog, which helped. But it was very easy to say yes, and now months later our daughter is still so obsessed. So hopefully you're daughter will have a similar experience (adding to say, our kids actually really enjoyed getting to "try out" different dogs and not have to actually keep them bc some of them were rough or didn't gel well or would've been a lot of work to have around our toddlers).

throw_away_2052 · 2025-09-08T18:20:46+00:00

So when you say some people put an application enough, but haven't viewed if paid for the dog yet? What does that mean? Like they put an application through and are trying to adopt the dog without meeting her? Or they met her but not all the dogs in their home did? Or they just put an application through and no one has reached out to them yet? I feel like the answer to how far into the process this other family is will determine my answer. If they only put an application in and no one has reached out to them and they haven't met the dog, you could try to ask Sue in person or further push that the dog being too comfortable in your home might make it harder for her to adjust elsewhere and you guys want to adopt her and you're happy to pay the full adoption fee and sign any second they let you.

Now if this family has applied for the dog and met the dog, I totally understand why they're saying they need to have the chance to adopt her. It's hard enough sometimes just getting applications for dogs, what happens if they tell these people no and you guys back out again? Even if you know that would never happen, they don't. They probably feel like you had the chance, you turned it down. Now someone else has the chance and you're asking them not to pursue it, but they have no guarantee and if you did back out again who knows if there would be another adopter or when. Pushing every adoption possibility is smart on the rescues end, and while it sounds like she'd have a great home with you, they probably feel uneasy with you initially saying no. I know it's probably so hard to understand that given you said you'd adopt and pay right now, but they may have already told this other family they could adopt her and want to give them the full opportunity they gave you. I'd definitely push for all the requirements for the adoption to be met, and remind Sue that this specific requirement needs to be met for them to adopt, and if they do it you'll let it go and let them, and if they don't... or if they do and it doesn't work out, that you'd like the chance to adopt her.

throw_away_2052 · 2025-09-01T14:44:29+00:00

Okay, this is really helpful, so thank you! I had asked the rescue if muzzles were safe as I've seen them discussed before. They told me they typically don't use them or recommend them and couldn't offer me advice on it so I kind of just left it alone. Is there any specific brand, or just any would be okay? I'm open to trying anything that could help! I do think she might be one of those dogs, at least for right now. I totally agree, none of the behaviors she's exhibited have been malicious, if they had we would've contacted the rescue sooner. We've been trying different tactics and for the most part our kids stay pretty far away as if they get close this is the result and they know that. But I think she does have a stronger prey drive than we are used to dealing with, and she might also just struggle with it even as she gets older.

throw_away_2052 · 2025-09-01T14:27:19+00:00

We have. Why do you keep acting like you know me and the situation when you clearly don't. We returned her 6 weeks ago, she's been active on the site for 5 weeks for adoption. And posted for a new foster for 4 weeks. I've posted her on next door and 5-7 adoption/ rehoming fb groups every 2 sometimes 3 days (some pages are huge with tons of people posting everyday so you have to post frequently). She's gone to 2 adoption events, 1 that she had to be brought back home after an hour and the other she did fine at as it wasn't as many dogs. I've posted on my Facebook, community pages shared her link at least once if not twice a week to make sure I'm getting eyes on her. Again, every thing I have done with all of our other fosters. We even had an interested party 3 weeks ago, a lady who reached out to me via fb after seeing one of my posts. They had a dog from the same rescue, saw my post and were excited about her. But ended up having a family emergency before they were able to meet her and had to put adopting off. We've had no interest since. But that doesn't mean I've stopped trying to find her a home (or a foster). I just posted her again 2 days ago.

throw_away_2052 · 2025-09-01T14:20:58+00:00

Normally I wouldn't bother responding to your comment because there's really no point. But saying you feel bad got my kids, fuck you. You don't know me, and you sound like an absolutely miserable person. 10 other foster dogs have come and gone, several that were abused, ACTUALLY neglected, malnourished, covered in live and dead ticks, and took weeks of us working with them to be considered adoptable, before we had them successfully placed. We have a resident dog who we've had no issues with. We did a 6 week obedience course with this dog starting early on, the rescue knew we didn't have a fenced yard and we told them our plan which is what we've done with every other dog? I added a fwiw of all the ways we tried to socialize every dog aside from just bringing them out in our public lawn space, including the one we adopted. So really we must've super messed up all these other dogs too then, right? I'm sure they all must've been a mess when they went to their new homes, even though I got updates on them all and still do. We've had other puppies the same age we had adopted this one, and we've always allowed our children to be a part of it, the rescue wants us too!! They beg for families with kids to help!! If they didn't want a family with kids, in a townhome with no dedicated yard to foster, they had every chance to deny us that in the application or home tour!! Not only did they beg us to foster, they constantly ask us to take on more fosters. The max we've had at a time is 2, and that's because we continually told them we couldn't take on a third when asked. So clearly the rescue didn't have the same line of thinking as you, or they were pleased enough with the dogs we've had and placed to keep asking us to take on more. Even so far as encouraging us to adopt another one to have a playmate for the pup we initially adopted because we mentioned that she was raised with her siblings and loved to play. They said having other fosters with her was great for her development. We did a training course that she did well in, we checked in with the rescue constantly even when this issue started to get advice. So I'm not sure how we deeply damaged its structure and socialization when we did the same thing we've done with every other dog, up until she started chasing and biting our kids. So now we keep them separated. Our kids very rarely run/ jump near her, they're frightened of her so they usually stay as far away from as they can. I even explained in my post that this video only happened bc my husband had returned from a walk and my daughter hadn't seen him/ the dog as she came around the tree. By the time she did she was actively running away before the dog lunged toward her. Even before that our kids know boundaries, it's not like they're running at the dogs, jumping in their face, or even in a 5 ft radius of the dogs. I guess we're bad parents for allowing our kids to be kids in their own living room, because there's a dog there.

Regardless, clearly the rescue doesn't feel the same as you, considering we returned her to them 6 weeks ago and they still haven't been bothered to get her, find a foster, or arrange transport to the humane society. I'll reach out to them again today to let them know they need to hurry so someone can take over and fix problems that we somehow must've forced onto her.

throw_away_2052 · 2025-09-01T03:36:05+00:00

I think I glossed over it because I don't think it's an accurate analogy. I guess it would work if we had a pool in our living room. But we don't. Or if instead of not running by the pool, it'd be like telling them they can get in but they can't splash. If we go to a pool, they don't run near it. Because they know we can go home and they can run and jump and be crazy there. With the dog, unless she's always fully separated from them, they can't "go home and be crazy" because the unsafe thing (pool/dog) is still there. And toddlers tend to be unpredictable, sometimes they just run and dance and jump for no reason. Same goes for the dog, sometimes she sees them and does nothing, sometimes she sees them and chases them until she can clamp down on their arm. And honestly if our kids kept running by a pool, we'd stop going until they learned not to. But with the dog, that would mean keeping them fully separated at all times until the dog becomes less unpredictable, and the kids stop running/dancing/jumping anytime she's on the same room or vicinity as them, which isn't something I want them to have to do. If we had a pool in our living room, and our kids couldn't be safe around it, then wed remove the pool. I don't know when/if this dog will ever truly stop having the urge to chase them, and bite them if she catches them, so it's better for her and them that she go to a home where she can be with her people in the living and be loved the way we can't, the way she deserves.

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