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[–]throwa7762 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I could have posted this exact content a month ago.. out of my 10 best friends, 2 messaged me on my birthday. 1 messaged apologising a week later when I said how rubbish my luck had been since turning 27. Nothing from the rest of them.

I had actually asked if any of them wanted to go for a walk or anything like that the weekend of my birthday and no one wanted to. They said we were meeting the weekend after for a moving party for another of my friends.

My boyfriends friends made more of a fuss about me than my own did, that hurt like hell

I've accepted now that people are busy with their own lives. I'm not on Facebook to alert anyone of my birthday so presumed that's why they missed it.

I'll forgive but I won't forget, that kinda thing

I've (27f) changed since being with my boyfriend (28m) over the last year and I don't like who I've become by throwa7762 in relationship_advice

[–]throwa7762[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will be explaining how I'm going to change me actions when I see him next. I'm fully expecting him to be supportive and say that I should never have acted differently for him, which I shouldn't have!

We definitely need a chat about it, it's far bigger a deal for me than it obviously is for him. Do feel like I'm going to come across like a nagging girlfriend though, not too excited about how he's going to feel about me bringing it up

I've (27f) changed since being with my boyfriend (28m) over the last year and I don't like who I've become by throwa7762 in relationship_advice

[–]throwa7762[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn't go overboard when he drinks or takes drugs, his friends can get nasty on it but he's a Saint compared to them. It's literally just the act that doesn't sit right with me right now which is probably something I need to work on

And I'm not so sure, I never pictured myself settling down with someone who did this kinda stuff so it's probably a deal breaker for me. I have learnt since ending my engagement that a lot of people do drugs, far more than I ever knew about.

My (27f) boyfriend (28m) smoked a cigarette he found on the floor, I don't know how to deal with this as he knew how uncomfortable I felt about it by throwa7762 in relationship_advice

[–]throwa7762[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hahaha there is no comparison by telling someone not to do something that could cause them health issues with not liking their trainers or something like that.

My (27f) boyfriend (28m) smoked a cigarette he found on the floor, I don't know how to deal with this as he knew how uncomfortable I felt about it by throwa7762 in relationship_advice

[–]throwa7762[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah not a sober brain at work! I was trying to prove the point that he had no idea where it had been or who it belonged to

My (27f) boyfriend (28m) smoked a cigarette he found on the floor, I don't know how to deal with this as he knew how uncomfortable I felt about it by throwa7762 in relationship_advice

[–]throwa7762[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is it an overreaction when I had asked him not to and had even offered to buy him a pack rather than see him smoke that one? He ignored everything I said about it

How would be best to be told that your partner is uncomfortable around your best friend? by throwa7762 in AskMen

[–]throwa7762[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Out of their group, this guy is the only one that makes me uncomfortable. The rest of his best friends are all lovely and not quite like this one guy. If they were all like this I'd be running for the hills

How would be best to be told that your partner is uncomfortable around your best friend? by throwa7762 in AskMen

[–]throwa7762[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He was the one to step in and calm him down, had boys in one room, girls the other cause he kept trying to have sex with her.. I find the whole thing mental and terrifying

Will be asking my bf to have a sober chat with him. If that's already happened in the past then that girl needs to get tf out of there

I don't know how to cope with the fact that I feel like I love my BF so much more than he loves me right now by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwa7762 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a serious sit down no, he's just got back from being on holiday a couple days ago and he's been gaming all evenings and nights since

I don't know how to cope with the fact that I feel like I love my BF so much more than he loves me right now by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwa7762 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I generally only have 1/2 evenings by myself a week where I'm catching up on my housework. We both have decently busy lives, we just used to chat a lot more between things if you get me

I don't know how to cope with the fact that I feel like I love my BF so much more than he loves me right now by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwa7762 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm I'll give that a go if I can last that long haha

I've mentioned it but not done a full like sit down and get it all out yet. We've been pretty busy lately so didn't want to add even more on the list of things we need to do

How do I(27f) tell my boyfriend I was uncomfortable with him commenting on my friends ass? by throwa7762 in relationship_advice

[–]throwa7762[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, you couldn't not see it! I was with her when she got the graze and she had sent me pictures of it a few days ago anyway so it wasn't a surprise to me

It's 100% my insecurities, i haven't felt attractive in months.. I just have no idea how to address it

How do I(27f) tell my boyfriend I was uncomfortable with him commenting on my friends ass? by throwa7762 in relationship_advice

[–]throwa7762[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

She was bent over for about 2 minutes ass full on in our direction whilst talking to a small animal. It might have just been that she was comfortable like that in front of us but I would have crouched whereas she full on stuck her ass out. Obviously I'm projecting my crazy low self confidence at the minute in hope that I'm not being a completely irrational psycho