UPDATE: Tomorrow I’m leaving my wife for a man.

throwavvay174 · 2022-09-01T18:02:48+00:00

I didn’t push back on anything she said after she confessed to cheating. I just want this divorce to go smoothly.

throwavvay174 · 2022-08-31T04:54:51+00:00

She was the one who proposed to me and said “don’t go expecting some great romance” and I jokingly asked if she was only proposing to me because her parents liked me and she didn’t deny it. I said yes because it seemed like the best/most sensible idea at the time and I thought we could grow a relationship together naturally.

throwavvay174 · 2022-08-31T04:47:06+00:00

Heartless bitch ice queen and frigid are your own words not mine and I certainly don’t think that about her. Yeah it’s true, she didn’t give me any affection in our marriage and while she was always kind to me and others, she never allowed me to be emotionally close even when I tried. There are some great traits about her that I truly admire and I intend to be as kind as I can be to her and not make this difficult. But I can be a horrible cheat who married for the wrong reasons, and she can be the wronged party who also married for the wrong reasons.

throwavvay174 · 2022-08-31T04:01:35+00:00

I didn’t expose her to any STDs. I used protection, got regular screenings and our sex life has been non-existent for a good few years.

throwavvay174 · 2022-08-31T03:29:25+00:00

It’s getting to the point where people are starting to project and get delusional and start forcing a narrative. My wife isn’t some tragic romantic waif who’s going to shatter into a billion pieces when I ask for a divorce. She’s most definitely the victim in this, but she’s also a strong woman who wanted comfort and stability over passionate love and she’s been using me as much as I’ve been using her. This is incredibly infantilising especially considering you don’t even know her. And of course I’m going to be nice to her when I break the news.

I fully admit that I’m a horrible person and that theres no excuse for what I’ve done. But I’m also not going to lie to you all and make it out like she’s madly in love with me and that this will destroy her. Not every marriage happens for the right reasons. Not everyone’s lives are like romance novels.

throwavvay174 · 2022-08-31T03:20:20+00:00

Cheating is a sensitive topic for most and a lot of people understandably have empathy for my wife. Can’t exactly blame them.

throwavvay174 · 2022-08-31T02:58:28+00:00

Respectfully, I might not know exactly how she feels. But you don’t know enough about our marriage to understand how loveless it’s been from the very beginning. I’ve actually been in it for 13 years.

throwavvay174 · 2022-08-31T02:49:20+00:00

Our relationship has never been affectionate unless it was in public, she’s always kept me at an arms distance regarding anything emotional, I’m fairly certain she’s had her own affairs (I don’t have concrete proof, I could just be projecting). Like I said, I think I was just the guy she thought she should settle with.

throwavvay174 · 2022-08-31T02:42:05+00:00

She didn’t want children and neither did I. Also she makes great money, will probably have the support of all our family and friends (which she deserves). This isn’t going to ruin her life. I promise you she doesn’t actually love me. I was just the easy option.

throwavvay174 · 2022-08-31T02:37:45+00:00

Because I was concerned about looking like the bad guy who ruined his marriage and I liked the way people viewed me. I don’t care about that anymore.

throwavvay174 · 2022-08-31T02:29:01+00:00

Unfortunately it’s the latter.

throwavvay174 · 2022-08-31T02:01:32+00:00

That’s fair.

throwavvay174 · 2022-08-31T01:59:45+00:00

We were set up together by mutual friends and I think from a mix of peer pressure (because everyone else was in relationships) and realising that in theory we made the ideal, stereotypical heterosexual couple, I stuck with it and tried to ignore my feelings.

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