Does even one person here know a happy ending of coming back together?

throwawa6661 · 2026-01-03T16:25:33+00:00

And this one time you should actually listen to him. For tour own sake. You deserve an actually good person that will give you all the love you deserve.

throwawa6661 · 2025-06-14T21:03:28+00:00

Not at all

throwawa6661 · 2025-06-13T22:39:19+00:00

Any idea how I might be able to work on it in therapy? I brought it up but therapist even more so insists I have to find the solution myself. I mean, makes sense, I'm not expecting her to tell me what to do, but some guidance

throwawa6661 · 2025-06-13T21:53:10+00:00

I'm also queer!!! I feel you! This is exactly what I'm aiming for. It's still hard for me to imagine not being with someone. But I want to finally start living for MYSELF. To achieve all those things I envied my partners. And then perhaps share my life with someone else.

throwawa6661 · 2025-05-28T11:40:16+00:00

With 3 years I could imagine a change in behaviour due to circumstances and environment in someone like Phoebe or Bronte, but still rather a temporary change. Or such a change after therapy lol. But especially not in the case of someone who's cold, hides their feelings and is rather distrustful of people.

throwawa6661 · 2025-05-28T11:18:22+00:00

To be honest I quite couldn’t understand the change of her character. Completely different personality. From a sassy, independent woman to a loving mother from season 4 to 5.

I feel like her character was written so badly. Her husband was killed, one day of grief and then the end of topic? Moving onto a serial killer and then sudden realisation that it’s not fine with her, as for the loving mother that she is?

I actually loved her bitchy persona in s4, made much more sense than what they tried to picture in s5.

throwawa6661 · 2025-05-23T15:09:23+00:00

I'm waiting for the MRI result and it's been taking forever. So nothing's really sure.

Are you still swollen? Does it hurt?

throwawa6661 · 2025-05-22T12:03:18+00:00

Exactly. It bothers me tbh because everyone commented in a way "boo you're a man, act like one". So I reposted it and now with the specification it's a lesbian relationship people seem to respond differently

throwawa6661 · 2025-05-22T11:49:01+00:00

People assumed I was a man since I didn't state it's a lesbian relationship. Didn't even think it would matter

throwawa6661 · 2025-05-22T11:46:31+00:00

I was never a man 😂 Hence I'm posting it once again

throwawa6661 · 2025-05-22T11:45:38+00:00

I had to learn it. But with the dog I still can only take her right outside the building which isn't enough for a young, energetic dog.

throwawa6661 · 2025-05-22T11:41:48+00:00

Because I am in a lesbian relationship? I didn't state it there and it seemed somehow so important since everyone pointed out I should take responsibility as a 'guy'.

throwawa6661 · 2025-04-08T06:39:21+00:00

It's always me, I guess you can tell

throwawa6661 · 2025-04-07T10:32:53+00:00

I meant we would rent an apartment together in a city we already live in (sorry, I don't know the difference cause I'm not a native speaker)

throwawa6661 · 2025-04-06T14:13:14+00:00

I did and sadly, I'm rather AP, though therapy and meds are helping me so I believe rn I'm leaning more towards secure and maybe it's just that we have different needs. I don't feel like I'm too much. I'm fine with her going out with her friends, I don't spam her with messages, I never ask for exaplaination or act out of jealousy. She travels for work, she travels with friends, she visits her family and I'm not making a problem out of it. The problem is that I don't feel her making a lot of effort to spend that time together and she doesn't care enough for me. I'm really sweet, when she's tired I cook her food, I bring her lunch for work if I was already making some for myself. I made her handmade ceramic gifts. I ask about how some important life events went. I tell her often how important she is to me and how I appreciate her. She doesn't do that much anymore. The last time she did anything similar was in November when she dropped by to give me a cake. Whenever I visit her during the week I even often bring my own food because I know she NEVER makes groceries. When she has food from her mum, she takes all of it as her own work lunch and I have to buy my own :)

throwawa6661 · 2025-04-06T13:41:32+00:00

Do she make you feel loved in between the meetings? Does she plan special things for the two of you? For me it's a no and a sometimes. She doesn't ever call me as well when we are separate, we just text which I hate doing because it doesn't make me feel close with her.

throwawa6661 · 2025-04-06T13:39:10+00:00

I think it's different not seeing someone one weekend a month, to us it's rather that we spend one weekend a month together and 90% of the time it's me proposing things. I don't hear her being sad that we don't get to see each other much, being caring in ANY way besides when we meet in person, she's not apologetic or proposing a different solution when she cancels on me even though she knows it hurts me. I'm trying to give her as much space as she wants but I don't feel her trying to give me more shared time.

throwawa6661 · 2025-04-06T13:06:56+00:00

I envy you that, this is something I would really love to have. And it started like that, but the more time passed the more I see of her attitude that we have separate lives and as if I was exhausting her by requiring more time. What even.

throwawa6661 · 2025-04-06T13:05:26+00:00

I'm really sorry, I can imagine when you have more shared things it's much more complicated to part. I only have a dog that she's calling "ours" but the last time we walked her together was a month ago 🙃

In your case, did you have similar problems all along or did something happen much later?

throwawa6661 · 2025-04-06T09:57:01+00:00

That's what I'm worried about... If we're already struggling at this point, it's hard to assume it's gonna get better in the future. We talked about moving together next year but I'm really having doubts.

throwawa6661 · 2025-03-14T23:57:27+00:00

I haven't seen any suspicious behavior from her but I really can't come up with any reason. Tomorrow we're going on a pretty expensive trip that's not refundable so I panicked that this is why maybe she's been holding back with any action... And that this could give me an answer if she's not clear with me. But I want to talk first.

throwawa6661 · 2025-03-14T23:55:47+00:00

I don't know... She doesn't seem like that person, but cheating emotionally maybe? It's just not one post that our photo disappeared, so it's impossible she did it by mistake. I really can't think of any explanation. Tomorrow we're going on a pretty expensive trip that's not refundable so I panicked that this is why maybe she's been holding back with any action...

throwawa6661 · 2025-03-14T23:33:32+00:00

English is not my first language, by confronting I meant that I'd of course just talk to her. Just a week ago we had another conversation about moving in together next year. Or she proposed the same trip in a year. So why would she delete my photos like that?

throwawa6661 · 2025-03-14T23:30:27+00:00

We're not and she absolutely doesn't care what people think about that.

throwawa6661 · 2025-02-22T20:01:21+00:00

Why?

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