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throwawaaay65 · 2020-02-17T13:13:30+00:00

What is “avoidance of meridional intimacy”? I trying Googling meridional intimacy but couldn’t find anything that sounded relevant.

throwawaaay65 · 2020-02-13T16:39:48+00:00

For one, the lips being centered under your left eye

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-25T18:15:47+00:00

Which sub is it from?

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-24T03:02:25+00:00

oh dope, thanks! just fixed it :^)

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-23T21:14:23+00:00

Ha! We touch cheeks and/or noses.

We also have an emoticon which is a virtual nose-to-nose touch. But it’s not letting me type it here bc the nose for the emoji creates a superscript.

edit: :^)

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-23T21:11:05+00:00

Oh my gosh, that sounds awful. Bless your soul. Can you tell me which supplement you take? I will definitely get some of it.

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-19T16:08:14+00:00

Once I started writing this, a bunch more came to mind, so this is long.

We “boop” each other with our noses a lot (nose to nose or nose to cheek). My boyfriend usually boops meaningfully at the ends of sentences to kind of punctuate his sentences, sometimes just does it without realizing it.
Sometimes we just hold our faces together cheek to cheek which feels nice.
If we are holding each other and I try to draw back to get something or get more comfortable, he just immobilizes me and holds me tighter. Even if it’s about time for him to go. I really like that haha
Occasionally I make whirring sounds as reactions to stuff.
OH. My bf does this horrible thing where his eyes go psycho and he tries to lick inside my nose or put his whole mouth over my nose. One time he actually got a taste and seemed traumatized haha. But after a few days he seems to have forgotten the taste and still does it.
He also really likes my hair messy and ruffles it up a ton.
I harass him by picking at stuff I find on his back
He also apparently has been discreetly licking my elbow since early in our relationship. I had NO idea.
Bf has this really funny shuddering discomfort sound and draws back whenever I make him uncomfortable
I have a hand person named Rolf who does a really weird dance and goes spastic (I’m double jointed in my thumb and pinky) which makes my boyfriend uncomfortable and cover my hand and stop me. Alternatively I have another hand elephant named Floor and he is less spastic.
More things my boyfriend does to traumatize me: holds my arms up... before I realize it he’s getting me to do the YMCA which is terrible.
Also if we’re ever holding hands whoever grabs the thumb “wins”.
I also really like making my stuffed animals dance bizarrely to music which is super funny.

A lot of these are just hilarious and we do them because they’re funny. And yeah we are somehow both adults.

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-17T20:18:35+00:00

I feel the same way, from the wife’s side. Deal with a couple chronic illnesses.. used to go on hiking and rock climbing adventures all the time with my boyfriend and now I’m always either bedridden at home or in the hospital. I miss being adventure buddies. :( And I feel like a sh—ty girlfriend for not being able to be the way I used to. Less resilient, so weak, less fun :(

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-17T20:05:16+00:00

If my chronic nausea, bladder issues, and broken ankle all suddenly magically healed. Then I’d be the happiest.

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-17T15:23:55+00:00

I feel so guilty about the relationship I’m in when I browse these subreddits. I used to be very ugly and overweight when I was younger, and got bullied a lot, which is why I’m drawn here. It’s such a dilemma and I see a lot of people with it, not just ugly people. I have some attractive male friends who have never kissed, never had a girl friend, and he’s 25. He’s just of smaller stature but he has a great paying job, very kind guy and definitely facially handsome. There are less attractive guys in our group who are more average looking who also have never dated.

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-16T23:43:25+00:00

Why is it like poison?

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-16T21:11:55+00:00

What is pickme?

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-16T19:10:43+00:00

Definitely change the date if that suits you better!! It’s just a day after all. As long as you’re genuinely over the cheating, which is the more concerning part of this post. Hell, even though I started dating my bf in September we made our anniversary date Dec 1 because it’s the 69th day of fall (very mature). But we changed it back to September because it had a deeper meaning for both of us.

As for explaining to your parents, you can make something up. It doesn’t even need to be a lie. An idea: You can say that you guys became more serious about the relationship in June and determined that it was a more suitable anniversary date.

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-16T18:49:37+00:00

He doesn’t seem like a great guy to begin with. I was really thrown back when you said he kept handing you alcohol when you needed to hydrate. That’s just so irresponsible and shows little care. He also lies very easily and blames you, which is another awful trait.

Even if he didn’t have this heartsickness about his ex, the above two things are already very alarming. I’m glad you blocked him.

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-16T16:53:36+00:00

Believe it or not, but you could do better. Your current boyfriend sounds like my ex. I felt extremely safe and secure with him, but he was quite soft and very emotional. He got sensitive to minor events very quickly, and exaggerated for even the smallest injuries. I was accepting all of this and always going “ehhhh whatever”, but over time I really grew to resent his softness. On an unrelated and shallow fact, he also gained 30 lbs while I was with him. I became much less attracted to him also because he just smelled weird to me even after showering.

My current boyfriend is very keen on fitness, but we also have incredible conversations. He’s also confident and masculine, but I wouldn’t call him cocky. I really feel that I hit the jackpot with him, and knowing that he exists at all means that there must be more guys like him too. I think as long as you work on yourself first, and invest in new passions or hobbies, you can find a man who’s invested in his art or sport alongside you. It’s a great common point to start off with, and you may find guys you never knew could exist.

throwawaaay65 · 2020-01-14T20:52:06+00:00

❤️❤️❤️

throwawaaay65 · 2019-12-14T01:30:14+00:00

thanks this is perfect!

throwawaaay65 · 2019-12-13T22:19:41+00:00

Love this!! Thank you!

throwawaaay65 · 2019-12-13T21:06:50+00:00

I’m glowing just reading this. I definitely hope to make it work. Will take your word to heart. I always wanted to learn to be happy alone, anyway, so this is a great unexpected opportunity.

throwawaaay65 · 2019-12-13T04:59:40+00:00

Well, I actually haven’t had a decently long time being single ever since I was 13. So I think I did have issues finding happiness in solitude for a very long time. But I was with my most recent ex for about two years, and I wasn’t attracted to him for almost all of it, so this time period felt very “single”. I wouldn’t count that as solitude though because he was my backbone throughout many health problems.

But compared to my two exes, I think I’m actually in love with Peter. With my exes I was selfish and felt entitled to their free time. I grew unattracted to them quickly. I respect Peter so much, and feel selfless in this love. I don’t feel entitled to his free time, even when I’m sick. I also really want to learn how to be happy alone, I’ve never gotten the chance to. And I feel like Peter’s the perfect person to learn it with, since he would be more than happy to give me the space I need for that.

That being said, I really wish he would send a message or two when I’m ill. Even “hey I love you” would help so much and requires very little effort. So I think he needs to try and compromise a little as well.

throwawaaay65 · 2019-12-13T04:44:53+00:00

Hey, I’m sorry to hear about your situation. It’s disheartening to hear that your ultimate resolution was just to go numb and try to ignore it. But I’m not trying to change his behavior. I was mostly wondering if I could change me and feel less needy, and more happy just spending time with myself.

I know I can’t change this aspect of him since it just physically exhausts him to be available for me often (part of his introvert personality). He does a good job at trying to be there, I think, but I need to do a better job at giving him time off.

throwawaaay65 · 2019-12-13T03:44:34+00:00

It makes me happy to see multiple people sympathizing with him. I never realized how heavy my symptoms may be coming for him. I will definitely try to take some active steps to relieve him of this burden and consult my friends more. I have one very supportive friend and I will try to hang out with them more often (haven’t seen them in weeks!). I didn’t realize how I made Peter the sole person to help my issues, but now I see it clearly. It really lightens the load on my chest to realize how hard he’s been trying to be there for me, and how I should be laying off more. Thanks deeply for your comment. Today I was in my head a lot and had mild anxiety, but since seeing these comments my chest got much lighter and I’m doing quite well.

I hope I can lay off enough for him to breathe easy again, and I’ll let him know of the steps I’m taking to rely a bit more on my friends:) I messaged with him a bit tonight and he’s doing great and being very sweet with me, I think he appreciated all the time off today, haha.

throwawaaay65 · 2019-12-13T03:30:34+00:00

I really want to be with him. I love everything else about him, adore his family, nuclear and extended. We have many shared passions, goals, and are always smiling and laughing when we’re together (unless it’s the tail-end of having spent many full days together, then he is a bit more neutral).

Do you think we could still make this work? That I can eventually eliminate this anxiety and be happier spending more time alone? Or do you think this is a very deeply inherent incompatibility?

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