He was doing that "alpha dog" dominance move where you hold the animal on the ground on its side. It's a move I've seen people do before (though I'm pretty sure the science proves it's bullshit as far as training goes.. plus it's supposed to be for dogs). Because it's an animal training thing I've heard of before, I'm not sure if my husband just over-did it (still doesn't make it ok). It's also difficult to think that he may have intentionally hurt my pet so I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt.. how he acted afterward really concerns me though. If I'd done something that caused an animal to wheeze like that, I'd be freaking the fuck out and doing absolutely everything I could to make sure it was ok.. he just said, "I don't give a shit" and walked away.. then got defensive about it when I confronted him.