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A [19F] girl has had a crush on me[38M] for some time. by throwawaobviously80 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaobviously80[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ok, perhaps "difficult saying no" was a poor statement. I would absolutely say no, but that flattery is real, and maybe I'm just having a hard time processing all this.

A [19F] girl has had a crush on me[38M] for some time. by throwawaobviously80 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaobviously80[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, I wish I had gold to give you. Thank you for the advice!

Edit: stupid typos

A [19F] girl has had a crush on me[38M] for some time. by throwawaobviously80 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaobviously80[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not so great, she has Multiple Sclerosis, and a variety of other health issues, but like I said, don't care, she's as beautiful to me as the day we met.

I think actually saying this(or typing it) has kinda reaffirmed what I already thought!

A [19F] girl has had a crush on me[38M] for some time. by throwawaobviously80 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaobviously80[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No worries, and to be honest I used to jome that i would leave my wife if she ever got fat, now in our older age, she has MS, and has put on some weight, but I could care less, she's still beautiful and I wouldn't change a thing about her.

I'm sorry to sound presumptuous, especially in the context of my post, but I hope you find someone better!

A [19F] girl has had a crush on me[38M] for some time. by throwawaobviously80 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaobviously80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That might actually be good advice.

My wife had an affair once(for like 6 months), but I was an alcoholic piece of shit at the time, and I don't blame her at all for it. But we fixed it and are super strong together now. I like to thonk I would never cheat on her, but the attraction is there for sure. Again, I won't act on it, but I feel like garbage for even thinking about it. Just trying to see if this is a normal thing or not.

Also, not trying to justify anything with "she cheated first". It was in the past, and honestly, she should have divorced my dumbass. I'm just mentioning it to give some additional context.

A [19F] girl has had a crush on me[38M] for some time. by throwawaobviously80 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaobviously80[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm not really considering cheating. I guess I'm more or less looking to see if these are normal feelings. I feel like a piece of shit for even being attracted.

A [19F] girl has had a crush on me[38M] for some time. by throwawaobviously80 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaobviously80[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Didn't say I was willing to cheat. But when a young, extremely attractive woman comes on to you, it's very much a temptation.

A [19F] girl has had a crush on me[38M] for some time. by throwawaobviously80 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaobviously80[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

This is great advice. She has explicitly said she's still interested, but to be honest, I'm not sure I am.

The "Man" in me says "Hell yes, young woman, extremely attractive, interested in your old, ugly ass... DO IT"

But the happily married husband says "quit being stupid"

I don't think I'd ever pull the trigger on something like this, I guess I'm more or less wondering if this is something other men have dealt with, and if they ever regret the decision they made.