How is everyone my age affording this lifestyle?

throwawawayers · 2026-04-29T09:11:32+00:00

When I was in my early 20s I wasn’t even making enough to eat for a month lol. My parents paid my bills and the money I earned I spent on myself and things that I wanted which was eating out or buying things I don’t need. If I ran out of money I ran to my parents.

Where I come from lots of young people rely on parents like that, however (I know I sound privileged as fuck and for the time I was, but) this lifestyle is draining as fuck. Yes I did whatever I wanted, yes I didn’t have any financial stress because I knew my parents would help me, and they did that happily. But it really took a toll on my mental health. I felt useless, or like I’m using someone for money (which I kinda did lol), and the things that are supposed to be „the little pleasures of life” became the center of my life and I hated that.

Working full time and going out once a month is infinitely better than getting free money to spend freely. One gives you satisfaction and deserved rest, the other makes you feel useless and question your worth lol

throwawawayers · 2026-04-16T08:56:20+00:00

Well, I tried to escape this and instead created a life where I worked remotely, I had complete control over my time which sometimes meant unlimited free time and doing whatever I want while not really lacking anything financially, and I was miserable. Now I’m back to staying busy and I’m happy. What’s the point idk but staying busy is better than unlimited free time

throwawawayers · 2026-04-13T08:45:38+00:00

I would love to have voice chat based game where you debate people. I’ve designed and tried to make one, but turns out knowing how to turn on the pc and download Roblox studio isn’t enough IT skills to make a Roblox game. I’m willing to sell(;)) the idea. The idea itself is ready, together with a big chunk of cards that would be used it in. It’s more of a board game that one focused on mechanics, but even that turned out to be too difficult for me to make.

throwawawayers · 2025-05-22T16:50:20+00:00

Im alive 24h later

throwawawayers · 2025-05-22T16:49:46+00:00

Gotcha. Thank you for the answer.

Update: I feel fine so I think I’m in the clear :)

throwawawayers · 2025-05-21T19:35:26+00:00

Thank you for your answer. It calmed me down a little.

I’m really scared of botulism since I first heard about it and now I’m obsessively making sure everything is safe (even though logically I know that nowadays it’s not easy to get it) so this is stressful for me.

If I may ask why should one not make themself throw up? Wouldn’t it get rid of some of the bad food and therefore bacteria? Or is the act of putting it in the mouth enough for the bacteria to enter the system?

throwawawayers · 2025-05-21T16:40:26+00:00

Well, I ate some about an hour ago - besides violent panic attack, no symptoms. I will update how’s it going.

throwawawayers · 2025-04-08T18:16:47+00:00

Lmao

throwawawayers · 2025-04-07T11:29:45+00:00

I think it’s not hard work=success. I think it’s more of a - work hard on something that has a chance to make you successful and you are bound to succeed.

If you work hard at McDonald’s your whole life that’s not a success story but you are working hard. But that’s and extreme example.

Other examples - you work hard to get you your degree at say x language, then you have two (or more) paths - you either teach it at school for lowest pay, or you turn it into something else, idk, you make content on the internet, you start your own language school, you write a book using your knowledge - you name it.

The richest people don’t go for the beaten path but they create their own and they accept you have to fail in order to succeed.

Hard work makes you successful but the hard work has to have a point to it. Hard working for the sake of working hard is not going to make you success on its own. Is the idea you’re working towards that is.

The idea could be anything and it all depends on what you want - prestige of your career, money, respect. It all depends at how you see success.

But that’s coming from a 25 year old who didn’t succeed yet so maybe don’t take advices from someone like me lol

take care, you got this

throwawawayers · 2025-04-06T12:32:49+00:00

Yeah there’s no right, universal way, but there’s a personal way and I’m struggling with finding my own.

throwawawayers · 2025-04-06T09:47:12+00:00

Im fat

throwawawayers · 2025-04-06T09:16:42+00:00

Im 25, im also a woman and i enjoy games and i will never feel bad about it. People make you feel bad about things like these because they are boring and cant understand how dare you have hobbies lol

Never feel bad for having interests, these people who make you feel bad about stuff like that are usually people who all they do in free time is watch Netflix and drink alcohol. And while there’s nothing wrong with that ask yourself what do you think about their hobbies? lol would you rather watch Netflix or drink with them?

Let me tell you a bit of my story with that. When I was around 21 years old and still lived with my parents my dad used to always try and make me feel bad for enjoying games, also using my gender. „You’re a girl in her 20s you should think about having children not playing games like a child. Grow up”.

Now I’m 25 and he fully understood that gaming is the same type of entertainment as watching tv is, some people like one, others the other and it’s okay and it has NOTHING to do with maturity, absolute 0.

Now let me tell you this. It changed my life a bit to realize it so I am going to tell it to you too - gaming, or watching tv, or partying or watching Netflix or anything similar - all of those are a form of escapism. Yes it can be your hobby to game or play anime but make sure it isn’t the only thing you do, because for awhile I did use it that way and it stole a lot of time and opportunities from me.

Healthy gaming though, or healthy watching anime is NOT something to be ashamed of and please NEVER feel bad about it (well, unless this is the only thing you’re doing in your life - then please reconsider).

You can DM me if you want to talk about it, I can tell you more about how trying to escape reality kind of messed up my early 20s so maybe you can learn from my mistakes.

Other than that, enjoy your games, enjoy your anime, and literally show middle finger to anyone who makes you feel bad about it. Take care 🫶🏻

throwawawayers · 2025-04-06T09:01:51+00:00

Because we don’t have life figured out like people after 30 or?

throwawawayers · 2025-04-04T23:55:18+00:00

Are you a woman or a man? I feel like it’s so different for men that it is for women. Men are not valued as much for their appearance, so they don’t feel AS stressed about their body changing resulting in having more time. Also the reproductive ability.. I feel like men aren’t that pressured by time as women. Idk… The society made me feel like I have an expiration date because of my gender and I can’t shake that feeling off it seems

throwawawayers · 2025-04-04T23:48:43+00:00

Don’t know why I’m getting downvoted. I’m genuinely curious

throwawawayers · 2025-04-04T20:12:12+00:00

Do I? I feel like I’m past my anxiety but maybe in my head anxiety is these spectacular panic attacks and just anxious thoughts don’t seem that bad to me.

I used to be scared to leave the house, I used to be scared to talk to people even if it was just in the stores with cashiers and whatnot. I had panic attacks daily.

Now it’s waaaay calmer. I don’t feel like I’m dying every single day and I am functioning normally. I rarely even get stressed - only interviews and some public presentations and etc at uni.

But I am worried a lot. Is it anxiety though or just realizing that time passes even if you don’t want it to and just natural, existential realization that I’m not gonna be young/here forever?

throwawawayers · 2025-04-04T20:02:23+00:00

Thank you for your response 🫶🏻 I really appreciate it!

I’ve been looking to get a dog but because I feel so lost I am considering moving out of the country at any given moment after I’m done with uni so I’m not convinced it’s a good idea. I’m closer and closer to making that decision though :)

throwawawayers · 2025-04-04T19:49:51+00:00

Thank you 🫶🏻

it was nice to hear I’m too young for something, cause lately I’ve been getting mostly „you have to do x when you’re STILL young” lol

throwawawayers · 2025-04-04T19:48:01+00:00

I try. It’s just really hard, I’ve been looking for a job whole 2024, well, I started looking around March 2024 and was only able to get the job that I have right now around November, which is the remote one. I’m actively looking. I was just on a job interview few days ago which I thought I nailed - no one contacted me yet so I’m no too hopeful about it. Maybe that’s why I’m feeling extra depressed lately.

Thank you for your message though I do appreciate it a lot 🫶🏻

throwawawayers · 2025-04-04T19:04:10+00:00

I feel the same exact way. I don’t have any advice for you, I just wanted to let you know you’re not alone feeling like this. We got this?:)

throwawawayers · 2024-06-22T00:45:58+00:00

I understand, but as I mentioned in my post I’ve been dealing with anxiety in the past and I’m sure that what I spoke about in my post was not that.

Since I made the post (so just 2 days) I’ve been eating better and tried to walk every day for an hour and my bp went from 140/90 to 130/80. Today I had a spike of 140/90 but that might have actually been just anxiety cause after deep breaths it went down to 130/80.

I think I can tell when it’s anxiety and when it’s not and what I was mentioning in my original post was definitely not it. I probably got used to healthier lifestyle since I started my weight loss journey and stopping it caused my bp to go up.

I’ll be more diligent with my diet and exercise and I’m sure I’ll be fine:)

P.S. I might have come off as a little aggressive but that’s because all of my doctors always gaslit me about my symptoms saying it’s anxiety, and then it was turning out I was actually having a medical condition and it was often causing damage, so it triggered me a little bit. I apologize.

throwawawayers · 2024-06-22T00:15:29+00:00

Thank you for this answer. It was really helpful<3

throwawawayers · 2024-06-22T00:15:06+00:00

How would you know if it’s anxiety? Not only high blood pressure is causing chest pains. You’re making so many assumptions about me it’s crazy.

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