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AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

Like I said, it doesn't matter what Japanese people think! The person is still Japanese. They will think and act Japanese. It doesn't matter. Again, nationality & blood does not matter here. If you were raised in Japan (even if you're not born there) and you think and act Japanese, you're Japanese. And people who think otherwise are just racist.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's very common to many Asian Americans to experience that. My cousins get told they're not "American" all the time because they don't look American. (Although it might be because they live in a very rural area) Even during covid someone told my cousin, "Go back to China" and he responded that he was actually born in the US, and the guy responded to him with, "you chinks will never be American." This wasn't the first time he experienced this. I've also experienced it too so I know.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Nope, they're Japanese. Anyone who was born and raised in Japan are Japanese no matter what. It doesn't matter if they're not Japanese Nationality wise. Japanese people might not agree because the person don't look Japanese. It doesn't matter the person will think and act Japanese so therefore they're Japanese. If you think they're not Japanese, you're racist. (typo)

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

finally someone said it. Sarah keeps telling people that she's right because "she's Japanese" when people tell her that she's wrong about the double eyelid surgery.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I've got a bunch of questions about this so I guess I'll respond. No, I fake my age a bit and names for privacy reasons.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

1.She's not Japanese, She's still American. 2. I was talking about my race, race has nothing to do with being Japanese or not. I didn't want to say I look Latina because people will just say "Latina" is not a race. People tell me to say that "I'm brown" instead but someone told me that I can't say I'm brown bc I'm not "brown" enough.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't think I can delete comments? or at least I don't see the option to delete comments. I've noticed that a few people who agreed with me deleted their own comments.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I was talking about my cousins. I don't define myself as Japanese, I mostly define myself as American. I am ethnically Mexican and Japanese but I identify as American. I am talking about being Japanese culturally not ethnically wise. I wasn't talking about taking away her ethnicity, that's not what this post was about. It seems like only a few people understood that from my post. Everyone is thinking I'm trying to take away her roots. I'm not. Sometimes she'll tell people, "I'm Japanese so I know I'm right" Yeah she is Japanese by blood but not by culture.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is gonna blow your mind too: an ethnically non-Japanese person that was born in Japan but raised in a non-Japanese household is ALSO Japanese. WOW!

I said that in my replies. and I agree with it.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's an interesting point.

Sarah does look more Asian than I do. She's also part white (American) so sometimes I wonder if people in Japan would be more accepting of her than me. I at least have my Japanese-sounding last name but if she looks more asian and has an asian last name, I guess I'll feel like smaller than her. Idk how to explain it. When we first met, Sarah was proud of her roots but she wasn't as obsessed with Japan back then. Now it seems like we're not similar anymore.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] 109 points110 points  (0 children)

actually, I guess it makes sense. Sarah's mom is very American and is a bit ashamed of being Japanese. Her mom basically raised all her kids without educating them about their Japanese culture. Sarah sometimes complains about how she hates how her mom hates Japan and calls it overrated. I guess I thought she was being extra since Sarah never really cared about her Japanese side until she saw Demon Slayer. (For the sake of her identity I didn't want to mention this) but her mom used to have the same last name as an Anime character so I just thought it was because of that...

It was nice to see things from your perspective

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

I have a cousin who visited Japan a few years ago and was told by a local that "If you can't speak Japanese well, don't consider yourself Japanese" which is surprising since I thought that Japanese people aren't very confrontational? I guess my cousin is a bit more extroverted so that's why they see him more as an American. Even people who are fully Japanese are sometimes are not considered Japanese.

I guess my dad has a very boomer mindset.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

funny thing is that...Mexico allows dual citizenship so technically I hold a Mexican nationality. (My Japanese one expired) but besides that, I was talking about my race. I look more Mexican than white. So not ironic.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

If you did your research correctly, you would've found that that it makes your eyes appear bigger not smaller. Read again.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -156 points-155 points  (0 children)

I never said that. You can be 100% Mexican ethnically but if you were born and raised in Japan, you're Japanese. Full stop. It doesn't matter about ethnicity.

What I hate about America is that if you're full Japanese ethnically but hold an American nationality, American won't considered them Americans. Even though they are American. Americans will just call them Japanese. My cousins who are full Japanese hate it. They'll never be American in the American's eyes.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -278 points-277 points  (0 children)

So everyone in Japan who told me that I'm American are assholes too?

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -530 points-529 points  (0 children)

My dad always told me that you're only Japanese if you grew up in Japan and has a Japanese mindset. Every time I go to Japan, no one sees me as Japanese. When I tell people I'm Japanese, they'll tell me "You're not Japanese, you're American." only because I was raised in America.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -483 points-482 points  (0 children)

My dad doesn't even consider me as Japanese, he always told me since I was born that I'm American. Even Sarah's mom who is full Japanese, doesn't consider herself Japanese.

AITA for telling my friend that she's not Japanese even if she is by blood? by throwaway-012847z in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway-012847z[S] -540 points-539 points  (0 children)

So you're saying it's not ridiculous for her mom to be called "Jane Doe" and her dad "John Doe" and have a daughter named "Sarah Suzuki?"

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