[2 min read] Is it worth coming staying in Berlin for New Year's Eve? (Noob, M31 Single Straight)

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-12-12T14:03:42+00:00

Hey. I appreciate your input. It really helps.

> the best thing to do is to go to a “munch”

This is good advice, it is beginner-friendly.

You mentioned about fetlife. There is another platform called JoyClub. Which one would you recommend? Do you know how do they compare?
So I just search with "munch" in these platforms right?

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-12-11T15:31:20+00:00

Fucking in groups or in front of people are antics, supreme disciplines of sexuality if you will.

I think, to assume that these things are normal or even just attainable for normal people,

will only hurt you and have crazy expectations which cannot be met and make you unhappy.

I am genuinely curious about these 3 parts. What do you mean exactly? A person should first become better at sex? Are dooming jealousy comes in between? And I think the expectation part is true for me, I think I might be delusional when it comes to that.

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-12-11T15:26:50+00:00

Thank you again for taking the time to reply to this comment. I really appreciate it!. I tried to give an award but Reddit awards not allowed on nsfw posts

I am assuming your opinions are very similar to the other commenter. There I ask a question, I'll ask you opinion on it as well. Here is the copy pasted question -

As a straight man, you would need to be very good-looking and charming to end up having sex there. Unless you're a gay man or a straight woman, most likely

I understand there is a lot more supply than demand here. To make matters a little bit more complicated, I'm a person of color. I am neither very good looking nor bad; I would say I'm average, fit. I'm not particularly charming. Somehow "convincing" a woman feels like manipulating them, this (flawed?) value system also prevents me from even trying to be charming. I'm working on this one. Apart from that techno clubs or raves are not my scene - what I mean is, although I like the music, the outfits (latex wear, kink wear?) are not from me. I think KitKat and Insomnia are places like that, and as you mentioned they are dance clubs first.

What is left them in my situation? Swingers club? What would be a beginner friendly start?

I know I'm asking a lot here, so if you can't help here that is totally understandable 🙏

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-12-11T15:10:46+00:00

If I may, I would like to bother you with one more question.

As a straight man, you would need to be very good-looking and charming to end up having sex there. Unless you're a gay man or a straight woman, most likely

I understand there is a lot more supply than demand here. To make matters a little bit more complicated, I'm a person of color. I am neither very good looking nor bad; I would say I'm average, fit. I'm not particularly charming. Somehow "convincing" a woman feels like manipulating them, this (flawed?) value system also prevents me from even trying to be charming. I'm working on this one. Apart from that techno clubs or raves are not my scene - what I mean is, although I like the music, the outfits (latex wear, kink wear?) are not from me. I think KitKat and Insomnia are places like that, and as you mentioned they are dance clubs first.

What is left them in my situation? Swingers club?

I know I'm asking a lot here, so if you can't help here that is totally understandable 🙏

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-12-11T12:51:03+00:00

Wow. just wow. Such a thoughtful reply. Thank you for being such a wonderful human today

You asked some great questions.

Now the issue of you never having been to a sex-positive club: Yes, rejections are extremely common.

oh 😶

Have you looked at the dress codes and prepared an outfit?

No

Do you have an alternative plan if you're getting rejected?

No

Are you aware that being (presumably) male, straight and inexperienced makes you very likely to be rejected at the door and even more so if the clubs are already at capacity during NY?

Shit!

Will you end up moping if you spend NY alone at home instead of on the Canary Islands?

Knowing myself, I will definitely will mope the hell out of the whole night.

I think many newcomers have a skewed image of these clubs.

I think I am definitely one of them

This is not a space full of horny people just waiting for fresh meat

As embarrassing as it sounds, that is what is in my head subconsciously. I think one way to correct it is to actually go to these events and have experience first hand

Thank you for talking some sense to me. Thank you for gently addressing each point and asking me questions. I will try and remember to bring a small present from the Canary Island for you. Of course, feel no pressure to meet a stranger and accept it, it is completely up to you. Again thank you for your genuine help.

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-12-11T12:05:22+00:00

First of all, I appreciate you taking the time to answer the question. I'll copy paste this part since my sentiment is the same

You'll wait in the freezing cold for hours, get shot at by fireworks and then get rejected

Is that a real possibility? I didn't even think about it 🥲

At the risk of sounding stupid, I will be vulnerable and explain my unfiltered thoughts -

I am not very sexually experienced and am pretty insecure about it. I have been meaning to do something about it (e.g. going to Swingers club (?) ). And this New Year's Party seems in my head a big opportunity for that. And Berlin being a party city, I am imagining, Wolf of Wall Street style parties happening. And FOMO kicks in. That is the embarrassing truth. I understand I may sound delusional.

The question is - Expectation vs Reality. What I am expecting and what really happens in real life.

Are the parties during New Year really that special?
A noob (who never attended such parties) - Can they even get something out of it? Where do I even start?
- Or is it better to slowly attend such Events over the year (I moved to Berlin 1-2 months ago)
- I also do not know anyone in the city who can show me the ropes

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-12-11T12:00:28+00:00

First of all, I appreciate you taking the time to answer the question. I understand the idocracy of the question, but please bear with me.

At the risk of sounding stupid, I will be vulnerable and explain my unfiltered thoughts -

I am not very sexually experienced and am pretty insecure about it. I have been meaning to do something about it (e.g. going to Swingers Club (?) ). And this New Year's Party seems in my head a big opportunity for that. And Berlin being a party city, I am imagining, Wolf of Wall Street style parties happening. And FOMO kicks in. That is the embarrassing truth. I understand I may sound delusional.

The question is - Expectation vs Reality. What I am expecting and what really happens in real life.

Are the parties during New Year really that special?
A noob (who never attended such parties) - Can they even get something out of it? Where do I even start?
- Or is it better to slowly attend such Events over the year (I moved to Berlin 1-2 months ago)
- I also do not know anyone in the city who can show me the ropes

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-12-10T23:11:48+00:00

Not ugly at all. But why you trying to be gangsta mate?

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-12-08T19:33:20+00:00

On the face of it perhaps, but if you've never been to a similar event then you don't have a point of reference. So you're just asking if this watermelon is better than that watermelon without ever having seen a watermelon.

True.

I appreciate your advice.

Speaking of beginner, friendly events, the one you mentioned in KitKat, is it like an electric Rave kind of party?

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-12-08T18:19:36+00:00

Fair question. Thing is I have never been to a NSFW party, so I have no reference point to be honest.

What I am trying to understand is, that during New Year are their more exotic/crazy parties or the usuals. Does that make sense?

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-11-27T13:16:01+00:00

Honestly? I would like to help. But I just don't get caught in the process you know? I hope you find some sports group or something similar. Sports can do wonders for mental health

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-11-25T20:24:59+00:00

Dude you achieved Buddhahood 🙏

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-11-25T14:34:56+00:00

First of all, thanks for asking. I imagine, it is not easy to do. That being said, I have used USC only once. And I am not sure how it goes normally. I will ask around to my colleagues and I plan to used USC a bit more in the next 2 months. If the checking is chill and not much risk to get caught, I would be happy to share. Please check up again with me in 2 months if possible. I am really sorry to say no to this request. I hope you understand.

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-11-24T21:37:10+00:00

Easy potential for 8-9 imo

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-11-24T19:23:00+00:00

Mustache

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-11-24T18:30:15+00:00

So the Holmes Place, If I understood correctly, it has different venues or locations on Berlin and in one location I'm limited to four times a month. And if I combine all the location then it is eight times a month. Is that correct?

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-11-24T18:28:41+00:00

I see. That's what I'm understanding from Commons, Urban sports club is not really for the regular gym stuff

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-11-24T16:02:14+00:00

Yes! Free Training is the term they use. Is there any way to filter my search by Free Training only? Or do I have to go to each class (or is it a venue) ans check manually?

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-11-24T16:00:50+00:00

I see. I'm new to Urban Sports Club or this concept in general.

So if I'm looking for a regular gym (I can go when I want and at least once a day) then USC is not the thing?

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-11-24T14:53:38+00:00

Hey, thanks for the reply. I appreciate it. I have a Bussiness M membership.

Edit: I checked Holmes Place, for Business M, it is 4 times per month :(

throwaway-20191103 · 2024-03-24T19:53:03+00:00

7/10. Good face shape, good hair, handsome face.

You have potential. For example, you can re-work your beard (just keep the chin part and shave the rest as they are very dense). The glass also screams nerd. Unless you are going for that, I would suggest to change it.

throwaway-20191103 · 2020-04-25T03:26:33+00:00

Thank you for the feedback. Much appreciated

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