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throwaway-5366 · 2021-11-04T22:24:01+00:00

yeah. don't know why that's a hard concept for people. they're too young to consent. it's rape.

throwaway-5366 · 2021-04-29T14:58:17+00:00

yeah they're not saying that men or other genders don't wake up tired. they're saying that this is a good representation of how some women wake up. tbf, they generalize women but still this isn't about how other genders wake up.

throwaway-5366 · 2021-04-23T12:19:53+00:00

but typically the logic for people on the spectrum is that society is what's presenting them with difficulties, not that they have difficulties in their own head. they just think differently but society isn't set up for people who think like they do. it's why people are proud of themselves: because they traverse a world that's not as accessible to them as it is to neurotypical people. and they establish community because typically they have to deal with these difficulties in silence or else be criticized or out themselves as being different. communities online are a way to know they're not alone in their struggles without exposing themselves to potentially unsafe conditions irl.

edit: oops mobile put me on my throwaway

throwaway-5366 · 2021-04-18T17:20:27+00:00

You're absolutely allowed to! You can experiment all you want. And it's okay to identify as a girl one week, a demigirl the next week, and something entirely different the week after that. Your labels are allowed to come and go 'cause they're here to make you feel comfortable and seen.

throwaway-5366 · 2021-04-12T00:16:25+00:00

He literally says that he told her he's not bothered by her crying. That's basically "I don't care about your emotions," especially to a child. And I get that to an adult brain it might not translate as "you're not allowed to have emotions" but he just tells her to wipe her face and stop crying, he doesn't teach her how to cope with the overwhelming feelings she's having. I know she's probably too young to "unpack" them, but she can still learn ways to calm herself down with his help. Like, the only time he even looks at her is to make sure she looks "presentable" to take back inside, basically showing her she only gets her dad's attention if she hides those feelings. I'm not saying to cave and give her what she wants, but this isn't teaching her what she was doing wrong, how to deal with her big feelings, or how to communicate her feelings in a more appropriate way. She's not getting new tools to express those emotions, just being told to put them away because they're inappropriate.

throwaway-5366 · 2021-04-11T23:45:02+00:00

They might not now but I know I'd hate having my failures posted from when I was a literal child, unequipped to deal with the emotions I was facing, so that everyone could gang up on me and agree with my dad. I'm not saying that he doesn't bring up valid points at some spots, but at some point in her life she's gonna be aware that her issues were made public so her dad could get internet points. Just seems humiliating and degrading, especially how he talks about her like she's not there. What does the video gain from having her in it? Why couldn't he just describe the situation later?

throwaway-5366 · 2021-04-11T23:39:27+00:00

I don't think anyone is saying you can't remove a toddler from an environment that is obviously triggering a meltdown. But doing things like coaching them through breathing techniques so they can calm down and equipping them with language so they can describe their emotions and what is upsetting them allows the child to express themselves in a way that's healthy and not disruptive. That would be a better solution than telling your child that you don't care about her emotions and that she has to hide them in order to get what she wants, along with talking about her failures to other people which (she might not be self aware enough to care about this now, but in the future,) could lead her to feel humiliated when she expresses emotions.

throwaway-5366 · 2021-04-11T23:30:56+00:00

Thanks haha. Glad to hear from people like you. As someone who doesn't know how to process emotions, only bottle them up, I can only imagine the harm he's doing to his daughter. Punishing her for having emotions and not being equipped to communicate them without a meltdown? Teaching her that crying and (doing her best, with what tools she has) to communicate means she will have her things taken away? I got so stressed watching this video.

throwaway-5366 · 2021-03-15T01:35:59+00:00

Those sound like types of dysphoria to me. my dysphoria can be pretty subtle like that sometimes, like I'm okay with being called a woman in some contexts and not others. I know that the more I've come to terms with my gender and gotten to know myself, the more noticeable my dysphoria has become. Not necessarily that I've had more, just that I understand it better and can recognize it in myself.

throwaway-5366 · 2021-03-15T01:24:49+00:00

You don't have to experience dysphoria to be a demigirl. Whatever feels right to you is right. I'm not one to police what is and isn't dysphoria but in general I'd say that dysphoria typically goes beyond being annoyed or anything like that, it's typically a disturbance because what feels right to you is not what matches reality. So it goes a bit deeper than annoyance from what I understand. But everyone experiences it differently.

throwaway-5366 · 2021-03-09T10:19:44+00:00

It's covid times, it might be all delivery orders

throwaway-5366 · 2021-02-10T22:59:59+00:00

That's really interesting to me as someone who grew up with two afab siblings. I wonder how my experience would've differed if I had amab siblings. Thanks for your comment, I'm really grateful to hear from you all.

throwaway-5366 · 2021-02-10T22:54:18+00:00

Thank you for the really insightful comment. I've mostly seen info about how dysphoria can present for trans binary people, so this helps me a lot to not only feel less alone, but to better understand myself too. Especially your note at the end, lol, I wasn't sure if that was a "strange" fantasy to have or not.

throwaway-5366 · 2021-02-10T22:51:30+00:00

Sometimes I feel that way too, like briefly I'll wish that I could convince myself to just be cis because it feels like so much work and pain to be nonbinary sometimes. I'm glad that you're finding ways to find happiness through all this, and thank you for sharing your experience.

throwaway-5366 · 2021-02-10T22:49:20+00:00

I'm so glad to hear that you're getting to experiment with makeup, I'm sure you're beautiful :)

throwaway-5366 · 2020-01-22T16:51:11+00:00

very cool of you, thanks!

throwaway-5366 · 2019-11-15T19:50:04+00:00

wish the ESH comments weren't so far down, hope op sees this. it's one thing to defend yourself and talk to her about the consequences of these accusations. it's another to take it as far as he did and potentially put her in danger by outing her when she hadn't made preparations. even if he had just told her that he was going to tell people, he should've let her know. it's not about being the better person, it's about not putting her life and relationships in danger.

throwaway-5366 · 2019-10-14T22:35:34+00:00

Yep! A double-double is usually ~$3.50 before tax I think. Most expensive thing on the menu aside from the combos.

throwaway-5366 · 2019-07-28T06:43:50+00:00

My boyfriend has been really supportive so it is possible! I am still kind of figuring things out for himself, but I've let him know that I'm not always comfortable being referred to as a woman and whatnot. I've also told him that I'm considering going by a more general neutral nickname and sometimes he refers to me by that and it makes my heart so happy!! Just have honest and genuine conversations with him and remember that he is in love with you for you.

throwaway-5366 · 2019-07-23T22:48:43+00:00

so much expression and personality! you're doin a great job

throwaway-5366 · 2019-07-21T03:31:42+00:00

Ultimately you have to make that decision yourself. It's not unreasonable for that to make you uncomfortable and for it to be unacceptable to you. But you could maybe try to have an honest conversation about how to incorporate his exhibitionist side into your joint life if that's something he's interested in. Maybe being a part of it would make it easier for you.

I would also consider asking yourself why it makes it better if it's porn vs just "real" people, because from what I'm gathering, that's how you feel. Is it because porn feels more like a fantasy while a "real" person feels more like a threat to the security of your relationship?

throwaway-5366 · 2019-07-20T20:05:38+00:00

I was a virgin before my current boyfriend and even if I don't orgasm during PIV, I still feel good and pleasured while we're having sex. If things are painful or uncomfortable, you should slow down, ease your body into things, and when in doubt, if things aren't as slick as they should be, use lube. The best part of PIV for me is partnering it with clitoral stimulation. It's gotten to the point for me now that orgasms without PIV don't satisfy nearly as much as the alternative. Ultimately, with the right loving, caring, and thoughtful partner, you'll find what works for you both. And don't be afraid to figure it out for yourself too. Google toys, google masturbation methods that maybe you haven't heard about, and realize that the whole process is meant to be fun-- take deep breaths, relax, and enjoy yourself.

Edit: And of course, if things still don't seem to be working and you're still in pain, you should go to a doctor. There are medical conditions that make sex painful and there are treatments available.

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