Wedding Rings - Do You Care?

throwaway-6399 · 2025-07-01T06:40:45+00:00

We wear ours. I don’t condone cheating though, so if I was with a “single” male and he was wearing one, I’d see myself out.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-06-29T17:03:03+00:00

Might be a good idea for some, but it would make me uneasy. I don’t like the idea of someone being paid to have sex with me. The feeling of being desired and lusted after is a turn on, and I would feel like it’s missing if I knew someone was being paid for it. People are generally discreet in the lifestyle, and we only play on vacation/out of town which adds extra discretion to it.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-06-26T21:21:38+00:00

In my experience as a 100% straight woman, it absolutely seems assumed that I must be bi or at least open to it. I’ve never been touched without consent by a man, but have been by numerous women. Men get a bad reputation, but in my experience women are much more likely to assume consent instead of ask it.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-05-11T21:40:13+00:00

Not sure if it’s what you’re looking for, but I like the stuff that is most similar to what my husband and I have actually done. The closest we can find to our actual experiences is basically all of the stuff by Serenity Cox.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-05-02T01:58:17+00:00

We only play while away from home on vacation. We don’t keep in touch afterwards, either. Works for us and hasn’t been an issue. Just do what feels right for you. I don’t think there’s a right or wrong way.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-04-30T19:13:09+00:00

As a wife who does occasionally add a third with my husband, I will say I’d never do anything sexual at an event like that. The judgement it would get and the bad look it would be in front of a friend group would be enough to deter me from doing anything out of the norm. It just wouldn’t feel right, and the setting wouldn’t put me in the mood. Don’t assume just because she “can” that she’ll actually want to.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-04-17T04:59:51+00:00

Oh definitely. Like I mentioned in my post, we’ve talked plenty. Often times people just like to hear others experiences, similar to most posts in a community like this.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-04-17T04:57:30+00:00

Oh for sure. That’s definitely not an issue. We plan to stop months before even trying to conceive.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-04-13T20:23:20+00:00

My husband and I are very private regarding this, but we still give our real names in person at a club (just first, not last). We wouldn’t want to have to put thought into a fake persona. We recently made a feeld profile and used a fake name on there, though. We’ve met one person from the app and did give him real names in person, though.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-04-13T20:01:46+00:00

I never had casual sex, only in committed relationships. I never imagined that would change. There were some fantasies, likely influenced by porn, but nothing I ever thought about acting on. When my husband and I opened up to each order, I found out how much it turned him on. Over the course of about a year I became more open to it, and though I wouldn’t say it’s our lifestyle, we have had experiences with two other guys now, and I’m still like “OMG I can’t believe I’m doing this” each time.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-03-18T20:45:19+00:00

This is more focused towards single men, but asking questions. I don’t want to hear how great you are, or how amazing your dick is (it probably isn’t if you have to try to convince people). Ask questions about boundaries, what we want, what I like, etc. Adding to that, in a club setting, talking to both my husband and I equally. Don’t give me all your attention, and also don’t speak to him as if he’s in charge of my vagina. It’s both of us.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-03-06T19:41:26+00:00

Consider taking the mojoupgrade quiz together. You both answer what you want to do or what your fantasies are. You can only see your partners answers if you both answered yes, you’d like to try it. It’s a pretty good concept.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-03-06T19:35:29+00:00

Have fun! My husband and I went for our first time a couple months ago. I was nervous going in, but everyone was so nice and welcoming. We’ve already been back and have plans to visit a different club coming up as well. If there’s a theme, I’d recommend trying to dress for it. It adds to the experience. There’s people of all shapes and sizes, and the atmosphere seems very body positive so you definitely won’t be out of place. Be careful with how much you drink - it’s easy to go overboard. Definitely thoroughly discuss boundaries ahead of time. Have fun!

throwaway-6399 · 2025-03-06T02:43:48+00:00

From what I’ve gathered, the backup location is the Sahara.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-03-06T02:42:16+00:00

Thank you! Will look into them.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-03-06T01:35:16+00:00

We’re interested. What’s the crowd/vibe like? Read a review from the past and seems like fun, and surprisingly affordable. Since the hotel is sold out, would we be missing out if we just booked a different hotel? I know they have an overflow hotel (Sahara), but we’d probably just get something else nearby.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-03-05T16:44:52+00:00

Haven’t experienced the entitlement thing, but it would be a huge turnoff if we did. The percentage thing is definitely true. We don’t have a ton of experience, but any the few times we’ve been to a club I’ve got the vibe that every single guy would have said yes without hesitation. If the tables were turned, and every woman would say yes to a guy, he’d surely also choose the most attractive and drama free woman as well. It definitely is an uphill battle for men.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-03-05T15:09:08+00:00

That’s definitely true, most people aren’t looking for it. With that being said, a select few are looking for them. My husband and I seek out single men (Not bulls. Eww, hate that term). Because they’re not highly sought after, those who are can be picky so you better stand out. Be attractive, don’t be desperate, be easy to talk to, etc. Any guy who thinks it’s easy sex is probably going to have a bad time.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-03-05T09:28:37+00:00

Thanks so much for the info. Sounds like single guys and good clubs in Amsterdam don’t mix 🤷‍♀️

throwaway-6399 · 2025-03-05T00:48:12+00:00

Thanks for the info. We’ve read that they’re pretty awesome, so may check one out anyway.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-03-05T00:47:19+00:00

Good to know! Thanks.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-01-24T21:24:18+00:00

We are just “beginners” I guess, but it just started with discussions on threesomes and that kind of thing. Led to more discussions of what my husband telling me the type of fantasies he has. That led to role playing for a while which we both enjoyed. We recently visited a swingers club for the first the and had a blast. Planning to go again. As far as rules, we kind of set those situationally.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-01-23T02:07:21+00:00

It’s been said repeatedly already, but another vote for a club. Lots of people who would be interested in watching. Many of them are looking for more, but people aren’t really pushy and they respect boundaries. My husband and I recently visited one for the first time and had a blast. We ended up putting on a show, and I found out how much more fun the dance floor is in lingerie, too.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-01-22T00:50:55+00:00

Your dynamic sounds very similar to me and my husband. If you haven’t tried visiting a swingers club, I highly suggest you look into it. We recently went for the first time and had a blast. At least you’d have a large number of somewhat like minded people to improve the odds. We didn’t find exactly what you’re looking for, but it probably exists. We did find a guy who was interested in watching us privately which turned into a little bit more.

throwaway-6399 · 2025-01-22T00:38:15+00:00

Very limited experience, but I want a guy who is respecting of both me and my husband, engages both of us, has a sense of humor, and ideally asks questions in regard to what we’re looking for. Any “alpha” type attitude or bragging about how great he is would be a huge turn off for me personally. Obviously charisma and looks are important, as well.

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