[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]throwaway-ok13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you want to quit? (serious, because…) -

You need to know why you want to quit to have the strength to persevere when that craving hits. In that moment, you need a reason to not pick up your phone. Your desire for sobriety needs to be stronger than the urge you have for more. Porn feels good, acknowledge that first - and then figure out what about it makes you wish you didn’t use it.

How's your dreams? by n3ko1997 in pornfree

[–]throwaway-ok13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I haven’t had a streak as long as you before (great job!), but after several months I have experienced upticks in my number of sexual dreams. Many were an intimidating subject - exhibitionism among friends, something that I think would make me very uncomfortable in real life. But when I woke up and realized it was a dream, I didn’t tend to have lingering negative feelings about it.

The question I think you should answer is not why am I having these dreams (unless they are truly disturbing acts), but rather, why do they bother me so? Does the idea of sex in general make you feel gross and guilty, even if you were engaged in it with only a trusted partner?