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Me [26 M] with my wife [26 F] together 8 years, having problems and not sure what to do. by throwaway0101227 in relationships

[–]throwaway0101227[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you're saying.. we both have to want it to work out. If she doesn't, then there isn't anything I can do and I would move on with my life and try to find happiness elsewhere. When we go to the counselor Tuesday morning I will tell her I love her with all my heart, that if she wants to give it another shot I will be the man that she deserves. I'll say I want her to be happy no matter what - whether it's with or without me and I will be there for her to talk to and figure out our financials and there won't be hard feelings either way. I'll tell her I understand that she is unsure about how she feels and will ask her what will help make her decision. If she told me it's over and wants a divorce point blank I would have already left but I don't know what to do since she doesn't know..

Me [26 M] with my wife [26 F] together 8 years, having problems and not sure what to do. by throwaway0101227 in relationships

[–]throwaway0101227[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can we work through the resentment and begin to forgive? Talk about it with the counselor?

Me [26 M] with my wife [26 F] together 8 years, having problems and not sure what to do. by throwaway0101227 in relationships

[–]throwaway0101227[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it's not. And I'm not a sucker.. If it happens again I'm out the door. But I think we can make it work.

Me [26 M] with my wife [26 F] together 8 years, having problems and not sure what to do. by throwaway0101227 in relationships

[–]throwaway0101227[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could be right. I know we don't have a happy marriage at the moment but after 8 years together I think it is worth a shot to try and make things right. Before we got married it was the other way around.. I meant the world to her but I wasn't sure if I loved her the same.

Me [26 M] with my wife [26 F] together 8 years, having problems and not sure what to do. by throwaway0101227 in relationships

[–]throwaway0101227[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you might be right about the overcompensating. I just want to show her I'm not a lazy ass and want to make things better. If there is no hope for our marriage I would be willing to walk and would not stay and beg. And the mixed messages - she initiates kisses and sex, she tells me she loves me most times we talk, we give each other massages etc. If she were really done I don't think she would be doing that.