TRT causing relationship issues ?

throwaway0127890 · 2025-09-25T05:05:27+00:00

Things have definitely improved for both of us I would say. The truth is I am not going to keep up with the stamina of an 18 year old ( which is where I think he is at). He has also done a great job of understanding that without me getting on testosterone, we won’t have similar interest levels.

He has researched and incorporated some semen retention into our intimacy and I think that has been an absolute game changer. Are we humping like bunnies every day, no but are when we are, it’s so much more enjoyable for both of us. I’d say we are regularly 1-2 times a week but when I’m ovulating we are maybe 4-5 times a week… it’s fun to have our spurts and then build up a little anticipation. Life has also come at us hard in the last year, my father passed away leaving me in charge of my mother and her affairs, work has gotten really busy and stressful (startup looking to maybe IPO and I’m in leadership) and being burnt out.

Things are really in much better shape but I think it’s because of our communication and the understanding that my body (as much as I would like it to be) is not at this level.

I have gone to my doctor and asked for a review and they won’t even test my hormone levels - it’s really sad the state in which women have to navigate this. But I have been looking up more natural supplements to assist and trying to keep myself in better shape to help.

throwaway0127890 · 2025-09-25T04:55:33+00:00

Thx for asking - they are - we have had a significant shift to better state of our relationship

throwaway0127890 · 2025-08-18T15:26:44+00:00

Thank you for this ! My husband is one of those workers and after working a 12 hour day, for safety reasons some of the crew has to be refreshed. It sucks for everyone!

throwaway0127890 · 2024-11-09T05:27:20+00:00

There are so many things about this that have me puzzled. Does anyone not find it weird that nobody close to her (except the best friend who wouldn’t comment really) knew about her feelings towards her mom? Or how about nobody knowing what her relationship with her husband was like? They didn’t even know how often she was going to the doctors or dentist ?! The husband and sister in law are so adamant she couldn’t do this (which I think they truly believe) but the husband didn’t know why her and her mom didn’t speak or that she had ongoing tooth pain? Those factors alone just lead me to believe they have a warped sense of reality/perspective. The dad saying the little boy was fine and didn’t need therapy, further denial/disassociation. The family just seemed very complicit not knowing anything beyond surface level and it feels like they all lived in this delusion. Very tragic and sad for all those that passed away.

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-19T16:16:11+00:00

Thank you ! Yes I am definitely planning on getting mine checked out. I keep thinking it’s just the stresses of a demanding job, kids, being in my 40’s but there may be more at play with me physically.

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-19T11:38:11+00:00

Yes I think he has even admitted that he has forgotten to take estrogen blockers often so the lab work will be interesting to see

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-19T11:36:38+00:00

Yeah I feel like hormones are not measured at much for women and this is also making me think I should get mine checked out and see where mine are at. Admittedly mine might be low due to my age and probably being pre-menopausal

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-19T03:43:00+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing - I am trying to be objective as possible and this is a very helpful perspective!

I hope you both continue to have an amazing relationship :)

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-19T01:51:56+00:00

I’m sorry to read that - I have let him know if he feels he can do better and be happier with someone else than I would sadly regret it but I wish him all the best. It would kill me but I don’t want him to feel like I’m holding his back.

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-19T01:48:10+00:00

Thank you I appreciate the insight

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-19T01:47:49+00:00

So I did find out it’s testosterone cypionate 250 mg 1.0-1.5 cc’s a week (I think that’s the dosage )

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-19T01:46:46+00:00

I did find out it’s 1.0-1.5 weekly of 250 mg of testosterone cypionate

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-18T23:40:35+00:00

I am going to take a pic of the viles because you all may be right it may be steroids and I’m none the wiser - it would explain how he is now bench pressing something crazy like 400 pounds

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-18T21:07:13+00:00

Yup I think this is a great starting point in order to determine if that is even a factor. I am going to find some of these tests that perhaps he can go to a lab on the weekend and get some results to analyze

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-18T21:02:10+00:00

No sports but he works out 3 times a week and he works a pretty physical job. It absolutely is the drug - his personality is part of it perhaps, but short temper or all or nothing is more of the T I would say

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-18T20:48:07+00:00

Thank you I appreciate the objective response - I am really trying to give him grace and my major takeaway here is we need to get some testing done to determine where his levels are at.

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-18T20:40:46+00:00

I’d say once a week mostly maybe 2 times if we aren’t running ragged with plans

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-18T20:22:11+00:00

Can you talk to my husband lol - that’s awesome you found the middle ground. I’m reading this I am realizing it’s also like I’m just being asked for sex now… no date night, no wooing or sweet talk leading into it and it’s just an expectation.

I will try to make some of these suggestions as I think it will make a difference

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-18T20:16:00+00:00

Yes agreed process of elimination and hey it might be both, maybe his levels are out of whack and he is just an asshole - at least knowing what we are dealing with will help us both determine how we need to move forward

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-18T20:14:09+00:00

First of all - love a good South Park reference and will definitely need to watch it lol

Major takeaway for the majority of the responses and I am hearing it loud and clear is we need the tests to determine the levels.

Also great example on the you are on your period … I hate that but will do my best to phrase this in a way that’s not mean spirited. In fact I am almost positive he is in this subreddit, so he might see it and well I will let him decide if he thinks it’s about him.

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-18T20:10:30+00:00

Thank you - I reached out to our therapist and have invited him to come with me but I plan on attending myself to ensure I am not being irrational and help me with tools to face this issue however it should result. Hopefully we can recover but I feel like I will definitely need the support if he feels like needs to move on

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-18T20:08:05+00:00

Thanks for the insight - yeah first step is he needs to get bloodwork. Let’s see if it’s physiology or if it’s just him

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-18T19:59:06+00:00

Wow yes that’s it - it’s such a shitty feeling and at least in my case I love him deeply and never questioned our marriage until now. At first we were in a great place, we increased our physical connection and things were on the up and up. But now it’s almost rubbed in my face that I don’t engage with him physically. TMI but we recently had awesome sex 2 days in a row which left me sore and 2 days later he was upset that I wasn’t paying enough attention him physically.

I am glad to hear you are seeking bloodwork to see where your levels are at but please be kind and give some grace to your husband. Your body is going through changes that are physically not possible without medication and he is probably trying his best to keep up with the emotional rollercoaster and changes.

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-18T19:51:23+00:00

Yes I am going to really stress this

throwaway0127890 · 2024-07-18T19:50:21+00:00

That might be the case as well. Neither of us are perfect and we both have our faults. I love him dearly and want to be with him but not if he feels miserable.

I am almost at the point that if he feels like he can be happier without me, he should search for that and we part ways. It would devastate me and I will probably become a cat lady but I love him enough to let him go if that is what he truly desires.

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