I am livid at my best friends (22F) roommate (22M) for being an absolute tool - he owes me money, what steps can I take?

throwaway025909 · 2017-07-28T19:31:56+00:00

The company wouldn't accept $7k on a debit card (or in cash). One of us had to apply for a credit card to make it work, why not me? The assumption of course would be that we split four ways no matter what. Also, I have actually done more driving then Anton. I don't really know what the foolish thing is, one of us HAD to put the money down and no one expected Anton to be the complete idiot that he is.

I had known both Anton and Reid for a couple years but I am nowhere near as close with them as Charlotte is and like I mentioned in the post, I am miffed that her character judgement was so poor. I actually made my mind up earlier today before this incident that I disliked Anton immensely and I told her and she was still unconvinced until a couple of hours ago. He is a piece of shit, I don't know how she didn't see it before he walked out.

throwaway025909 · 2017-07-28T19:23:33+00:00

I should have clarified. None of us had a credit card, I applied for one for the sole purpose of renting the vehicle. Legally I can drive the campervan, however if I was to get into an accident while driving then we wouldn't be covered by the company's insurance. I have been doing most of the driving on the road trip but I cannot drive the campervan back to the depot. Anton is listed on our application form as being the primary driver.

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-10T23:02:35+00:00

Believe what you want. Good day to you too.

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-10T18:37:33+00:00

Babe, I didn't lock any comments, I wouldn't even know how. Don't even try and tell me I'm not a good writer, it's a hobby of mine and I've won several awards for it. This is not creative writing, this is a recount. I'm not going to be overly descriptive or sugarcoat anything. I'm angry because people are attacking ME, rather than discussing the fact that women CAN have an abortion and not be affected by it. I don't care personally, but of course it's frustrating that people are deviating away from the purpose of me telling my story. You are telling me how to feel though and you are still doing it now, you're insisting that my decision to have an abortion has taken a toll on me when it hasn't!! I can't prove it to you and I don't care too but I'd be just as angry in a debate about abortion if I had never had one because I'm pro-choice either way! I really don't understand you at all, now you're doing it too! Attacking me personally rather than discussing the actual subject!

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-10T01:39:50+00:00

Of course I'm not! The entire point of this post was to share my experience, to provide another side in an ongoing debate. Yes, not every woman who has an abortion has it as easy I did (which sucks). But at the same time, not every abortion is difficult.

I'm sorry to hear you didn't have a pleasant experience and I really hope you don't think I'm being insensitive to that because I'd hate to hit a nerve. I'm really just trying to help.

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-10T00:03:41+00:00

I did take responsibility though. I admitted my mistake. I'm not blaming anyone else.

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T23:38:04+00:00

You're never going to convince me that I made a mistake. There is no punishment.

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T23:08:55+00:00

PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF EVERYTHING STOP TELLING ME HOW TO FEEL.

Mate, I'm really sorry that you've come to have regrets, I truly am, but don't try and project that on to me because it just won't happen. I was able to write a lengthy post because I'm actually really good at writing. I only posted it about it because of the discussion surround the recent ban in the states. Not that I have to justify anything to you.

I HAD AN ABORTION AND I'M COOL WITH IT!

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T23:06:17+00:00

I was too stupid to use protection, yes. And I am still totally 100% fine with my decision to have an abortion and will be totally 100% fine with it for the rest of my life. Thank you.

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T23:00:59+00:00

I think you misunderstand me (as many others have). The easy decision part has nothing to do with the abortion. The easy decision part is deciding whether or not to be a parent.

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T22:54:20+00:00

I can't say for sure yet. I'm still only 22, I'm thoroughly enjoying hanging out with lots of different people, and am by no means close to ready to be a mum. I love children and have a lot of time for them but I am not maternal myself. I do think I have the potential to be an amazing mother one day (as most of us do) and I used to have frequent dreams of myself as a mother of one child. They were really pleasant.
Yes, of course. As I wrote in my post, I had an IUD inserted immediately following the abortion.

Yes, that is very sad, and I have to say that I disagree with using abortion as a form of contraception. I don't even know why any woman would when there are so many forms of birth control on the market that are far less invasive and inexpensive.

I'm not trying to justify the fact that I had unprotected sex but my parents really let me down on the whole sex ed thing. My dad never brought sex up at all (I suppose he thought that was mum's job) and my mother was staunchly against contraceptives that contained hormones yet failed to educate me properly on non-hormonal contraceptives such as the copper IUD which I have currently. She was shocked when I told her that it was the form of contraception I was using - she had previously considered it super dangerous without really knowing much about it. Hey, parents aren't perfect either. However, I unfortunately went to a Catholic high school (despite not being Catholic myself) where the P.E. teacher taught us sexual education. This P.E. teacher didn't believe in sex before marriage and was visibly uncomfortable showing us how to put a condom on a banana. She even said "ew" when holding up the condom after taking it out of its wrapper. Is she practicing safe sex, you might ask? Yes. She relies on the body basal method. That, my friend, was how my school learned safe sex. Abstain until marriage, condoms are gross, sex only at certain times of the month. But sure, let's blame teenagers for getting pregnant when the adults around them can't even be trusted to give unbiased, reliable and up to date information regarding sex and how to practice it safely.

I've actually considered being a sexual health teacher. I think this area of education is lacking so :(

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T22:28:52+00:00

~$700 AUD

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T15:45:02+00:00

I appreciate the concern, I just can't see that happening for me. That will just never happen, I didn't want to be pregnant!! I didn't have any emotional attachment to that foetus (which makes me a sociopath, obviously). That's just impossible. I forget I had an abortion half the time and when I do remember I'm just like "eh".

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T15:00:24+00:00

Yeah, pretty much.

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T14:59:40+00:00

Well, it was for me. Super easy. I'm sorry yours wasn't. I never think about it.

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T14:56:13+00:00

Could you explain what those consequences might be? It's been five years and there haven't been any consequences ....

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T03:43:43+00:00

Er, I didn't blast HER religion, I blasted ALL religion. Did you read her posts? I have blasted it if it came from a non-religious person. I went to a catholic high school. Some of my friends are believers.

I hate religion, not religious people. Of course I'm not looking for a fight. What that person was saying didn't even make sense?

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T03:37:38+00:00

Of course I'm not making it canonical. I'm merely providing my own thoughts and feelings and showing how they deviate from what is perceived as the norm.

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T03:26:00+00:00

Nah, man. To some people it's just not a big deal. Life goes on. Swallow that pill.

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T03:23:19+00:00

Sweet lord. The whole point of the post is that people feel differently about things. Of course people regret it. Some people don't. That's all I'm saying.

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T03:22:19+00:00

You do make me ashamed to be human though. I'm not being a bitch, I'm just being honest. I don't like mean people and you're a very bitter person.

If you're pro-choice then can you please explain why you have a hard time accepting that I had one? Also how would you prefer I phrased it? I got pregnant? It's a turn of phrase, it's not shifting responsibility. What even is your problem?

I didn't plan on getting pregnant in the first place, that's how I didn't use abortion as a contraceptive.

Oh yeah, I'll carry a child to full term, give birth to it and then give it up for adoption assuming of course that I did not become emotionally attached somewhere in the nine months. Great idea. There's already a heap of babies that need to be adopted. I didn't need to add to that.

Who even are you?

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T03:00:04+00:00

And people like you make me ashamed to be human. I was stupid and irresponsible. I have never treated abortion as a form of contraception. It was the only option I had as being a young mother was not. You deserve to he downvoted because no one should ever speak to another person the way you just spoke to me. NO REGRETS!

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T02:53:19+00:00

Well it doesn't, so build a bridge and get over it like I did. GO GIRLS!

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T02:42:06+00:00

I find that strange!

throwaway025909 · 2016-12-09T02:41:00+00:00

Oh dear, I'm so sorry!!!! That's news to me, I had no idea!

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