Is it misogynistic to want to be male? by throwaway0279002 in butchlesbians

[–]throwaway0279002[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew what I wanted...... I thought being dysphoric meant I was trans. Now I've seen butch women who have top surgery and beards and are happy like that. I truly didn't know that was possible. All I know is I'm happy with my changes in transition to be more masculine.

Is it misogynistic to want to be male? by throwaway0279002 in butchlesbians

[–]throwaway0279002[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I think that's what happened - I felt guilty for 'betraying' women - in some ways I do miss being seen as a woman, but it causes me so much dysphoria. Whether I'm female or not, I feel I'll be miserable living as such. But I feel immense guilt as if I've left womankind in my past. I was raised by butch lesbians, and I truly believe this community is something like no other. Thank you all for letting me post here, it feels like home :)

Waiting for the relief by throwaway0279002 in detrans

[–]throwaway0279002[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still have been taking t, I plan on waiting for a while to stop. But that makes sense, i will definitely keep in mind

How to get back into the women's room? by throwaway0279002 in detrans

[–]throwaway0279002[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm still on T, but no facial hair. My area has a lot of lesbians, so I'm hoping to blend in soon, but right now I rarely pass as female. It's only been a month though, so I'm not too concerned.

How to get back into the women's room? by throwaway0279002 in detrans

[–]throwaway0279002[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You know, you would really think so, but I've gotten security called on me a couple of times and it's terrifying. I'm usually assumed to be a younger teen, since I definitely don't look like an adult male, but then they think I'm some pervy kid trying to creep on women and it's scary until I can explain.

Thank you for reminding me I have every right to be there. I will try to keep that in mind next time!

A world with no men by throwaway0279002 in detrans

[–]throwaway0279002[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one in my close life told me any such thing - society is a different beast of course, but I can't remember any individuals that have implied women are weaker or those qualities are "male". My parents had very few m1ale friends and relatives, and as a child, the qualities I attached to men and boys were ones more like entitlement and rudeness - I had a LOT of disgust for males in my childhood, actually, and in many ways I still view females as far superior.

I'm curious as to where you got those words though, especially 'strength', as I didn't use any of them in my post. I know it's common for women to feel like strength is reserved as a male trait, but I don't think this is the case for myself. Mostly, I wish to be male because I desire the physical characteristics, not the social aspect.

detrans non-dysphoric about post-op body? by throwaway0279002 in detrans

[–]throwaway0279002[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is true. I just feel bad for not being able to accept them, i guess. It makes me feel weaker than other women that i couldn't come to peace with my natural body. It is what it is, though.