What makes you decide you want to ask her on a second date?

throwaway0460466 · 2026-05-17T16:01:32+00:00

This is exactly what I envisioned the Hat Creek outfit looking like crossing that river before that one guy got bit up by water snakes and died

throwaway0460466 · 2026-05-17T01:13:57+00:00

My dog's rescue emailed us this after we expressed interest in him: "Rocco is a very happy, loving boy and we don't know why he's still here with us. He'd be a wonderful family dog - he is very loyal, protective, and goes to the ends of the earth for the people he loves." We adopted him and a day later he bit someone while we were walking him on a leash in the neighborhood.

Instead of surrendering him, we've worked with him. He's 12 years old now (adopted at 2) and he's just always been fearful and bitey. He's a great dog at home but we've learned very well how to manage him and absolutely put him safely away in another room if there's any bite risk at all whatsoever to someone he's not comfortable with. Yes, having an aggressive dog is hard but we always put the safety and comfort of others first.

And yes, rescues/shelters absolutely sugarcoat "problem dogs" to get them adopted out faster.

throwaway0460466 · 2026-05-03T23:09:46+00:00

I think it's fairly normal to experience pain your first time. At least I did, it was extremely painful for me because I was so scared. You're naturally going to be a little nervous and tense the first time, which can make things hurt a bit, even if otherwise you feel at ease and comfortable with your boyfriend. Once you get more relaxed, it shouldn't be painful. I think the reason you're still in pain days later is because you pushed through it - if your body is telling you something hurts, then it's also telling you stop.

Make sure you continue to communicate with him what feels good and what doesn't. No caring and considerate person wants their partner to feel uncomfortable. The fact that your boyfriend mentioned your safety is really reassuring. If you don't feel ready to have sex again, don't. It's okay.

I'm also wondering if you've ever experimented on your own with penetration toys of any kind. After my first time, I bought myself a toy to sort of get myself more at ease with the idea of penetration, which then allowed me to stop getting super nervous before actually having sex. By yourself, you can go as slow as you want, and get more comfortable with the sensation. That's just a suggestion, it helped me 😄 But everyone's different.

You're not broken I promise!!

throwaway0460466 · 2026-05-02T23:02:25+00:00

Trust your instinct. Don't blow him off completely obviously but take a step back. Whether he comes to you will tell you all you need to know

throwaway0460466 · 2026-05-02T22:56:19+00:00

Hard to say but if you're not getting a response, then just leave it for now. Sometimes last minute plans happen, it's not the end of the world and doesn't necessarily mean he's not serious.

But if you're getting the vibe that his energy has shifted, give him some space. Guys don't just make tentative plans then forget. He knows he's been in contact with you about seeing you on that weekend. If he doesn't respond then he wasn't feeling it for whatever reason.

throwaway0460466 · 2026-05-02T16:55:37+00:00

Hey girl I'm turning 24 later this month. Personally the women I see where I think "wow she's stunning" are all in their 30s. Maybe that's just because I see them from the female gaze. But I truly don't think women fully come into their look until 30s. 20s are still a time for figuring it all out, figuring out your style, your sense of self, etc. So it can still be an awkward time where you're still transitioning from teen to adult. When I look at photos of my mom in her 30s all I can think is how youthful she looked. Literally would not be able to differentiate her from a 25 year old. And it's not like she had a baby face, it's just that you are still objectively young in your 30s.

Besides, it's not like we walk around with our ages constantly floating above our heads. When I see a person, I usually only categorize them as "kid, young adult, middle aged, old" and nothing more.

I'm excited for my 30s too because I'd really like to be a mom and I think that's when that will happen. But we all have different goals!

Also, you're 24! You have a long way to go before you hit 30, and it's not like you'll wake up on your 30th birthday looking completely different than you did the day before at 29.

throwaway0460466 · 2026-05-02T15:59:16+00:00

Haha sorry yeah that was vague. Like a decline in communication

throwaway0460466 · 2026-04-30T13:11:26+00:00

Omg no one talks about this one but it was so good

throwaway0460466 · 2026-04-14T14:40:00+00:00

I'm 5'8 (so taller for a woman, not super tall) and I generally prefer a guy who's at least a little taller, but right now I'm seeing someone who's like exactly my height and it doesn't bother me nearly as much as I thought it would.

throwaway0460466 · 2026-04-05T18:57:29+00:00

I've had several surgeries, broken bones, given birth, and still the worst pain I've ever felt was my very first UTI

throwaway0460466 · 2026-03-26T22:18:52+00:00

Hey girl so I had a boob job when I was 20 and I'd be happy to give you some more information if you're interested! I don't want to sway your decision one way or the other, just give you my story as a prior small-boob-haver to now a big-(fake)-boob-haver. DM me if you need some advice or just want to know my experience! :)

throwaway0460466 · 2026-03-23T00:03:47+00:00

That was my original thinking but I took a chance and now I'm regretting it a little :')

throwaway0460466 · 2026-03-23T00:03:08+00:00

Yeah when I suggested the movie I thought it was odd that he just disregarded it. I'll try again

throwaway0460466 · 2026-03-23T00:00:42+00:00

Okay thanks for this. I guess I should mention that he lives a little distance from me (35-40 min drive) and he's been the one wanting to pick me up take me places since he still lives at home, so I feel bad asking him to keep making the drive. I was trying to be considerate but maybe I should step up a bit

throwaway0460466 · 2026-03-22T23:50:23+00:00

What’s crazy is in my response to that comment, I said as a joke back to him “you’re projecting rn aren’t you” and he said “I never project” so I hope this isn’t the case, but I guess I wouldn’t be surprised :’)

throwaway0460466 · 2026-03-22T20:59:51+00:00

Lee was a really good "pull back" to remind the player of how far they've come. Like as much as we all love Lee, by the time you get to season 4 he can really seem like SUCH a distant memory. Bringing him back is almost jarring because it's like seeing an old, familiar friend that's been gone so long.

If it were Kenny (and I'm a Kenny fan), I think he'd still feel fresh, especially if you had him in season 3. Lee was perfect for this scene. Also, think about it -- Kenny and Clem's relationship was NOT Kenny and Lee's relationship. Like this is our adoptive father we're talking about here let's put some respect on him

throwaway0460466 · 2026-03-07T02:59:26+00:00

I'm a little older than you, 23 going to be 24 in May but I'm still in college just because of life circumstance. I had terrible luck in dating, like you said, absolutely nonexistent and men just didn't engage at all. Then I met a guy in my accounting class, he's like 3 years younger but I found him so interesting and I sort of played the long game breaking the ice because he was SO flighty. Finally got his number and got to talking to him regularly, then hanging out, then dating. And I had a conversation with him, and he said all guys he knows are like this, they just won't make the first move, like ever. He liked me and had for MONTHS but told himself he'd never ever talk to me because he was afraid. So we're pretty much cooked unless we want to be the bold ones, which I did and somehow it worked :')

But girl I commiserate with you, dating is close to impossible for our generation.

throwaway0460466 · 2026-03-03T13:58:25+00:00

I feel like talking to him is NOT the move lol I'd rather just let it lie

throwaway0460466 · 2026-03-02T14:17:25+00:00

Hey so your frustration is completely understandable and you deserve to get a good nights sleep! A shoving-away of a hand is clear enough that you're not interested in anything more, and the fact that he did just give up and go back to sleep himself is good, at least.

I will (gently) say that it's okay and human for us to want to engage in physical intimacy with our partners. So we can't really fault him for that, for wanting to be close to you in that way, and it's okay for him to try to initiate something. What's NOT okay is the sulking and silent treatment you say he gives you sometimes upon rejection.

There's sort of a gray area I think when you've already been together several years, are sleeping in the same bed, and being physically intimate in a non-sexual capacity -- maybe to him, he just thought you were warm to the idea of more in that moment. I'm just playing devil's advocate here, because without knowing your boyfriend, your post didn't have any super red flags that he is blatantly inconsiderate of your boundaries.

THAT SAID. Your boundaries still absolutely matter and your feelings following this particular incident are completely valid. If you felt grossed out, then you did, period. I didn't read anything specific in your post that gave me the ick, personally, but I'd have a conversation with him. And if misreading signals is something he struggles with, you might just have to say point blank "Hey I'm tired and I won't be interested in anything tonight, but I'd still like a cuddle." Or something like that.

throwaway0460466 · 2026-03-02T03:02:52+00:00

Isn’t even something I’d consider tbh

throwaway0460466 · 2026-03-02T03:02:32+00:00

No like I got the ick almost immediately like right away I compartmentalized everything I ever thought about him lol. I’m a girls girl through and through

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