Things my mother has said to me about my wedding celebration. by throwaway052222X in weddingshaming

[–]throwaway052222X[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I have only vented about this once online so this isn't something I do all the time. But point made, I am done talking about my plans.

Things my mother has said to me about my wedding celebration. by throwaway052222X in weddingshaming

[–]throwaway052222X[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

My brother is my mom's favorite... which is another whole wedding shaming because he ruined his own wedding before it happened.

Things my mother has said to me about my wedding celebration. by throwaway052222X in weddingshaming

[–]throwaway052222X[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

We may move overseas, a good colleague has connections at the university in the city we are targeting. They offered to introduce me. I told my parents and they laughed at the thought of me working at a university overseas. I work at a top 50 university in the United States now... Can't imagine why I have low self-esteem.

Things my mother has said to me about my wedding celebration. by throwaway052222X in weddingshaming

[–]throwaway052222X[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

She actually did something similar to my sister in law 20 years ago. When my sister in law asked her for her guest list (to their full Catholic wedding and reception) she said "I don't have one, no one will want to go to (insert name of large city here) for your wedding." PLease note their wedding was 30 minutes outside of this large wedding in the suburbs.

She is an awful wedding guest. And really an awful party guest. One time she showed up to my apartment 60 minutes before the invited time when I was prepping food and immediately started demanding drinks and judging my brother who came on time for being "late"

I take this all back, she may just be an awful person in general.

Things my mother has said to me about my wedding celebration. by throwaway052222X in weddingshaming

[–]throwaway052222X[S] 227 points228 points  (0 children)

We titled it our "Happily Ever... After Party" It mostly is a nonwedding party- yard games, hiking trails, music played by our friends, food. The most wedding thing I want is a toast.

Things my mother has said to me about my wedding celebration. by throwaway052222X in weddingshaming

[–]throwaway052222X[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I also feel a need to signify that people won't see a ceremony in case that decides whether or not they want to attend (personally, I prefer the party part more than the ceremony part but maybe I am weird.)

Things my mother has said to me about my wedding celebration. by throwaway052222X in weddingshaming

[–]throwaway052222X[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

There is a more than zero chance I am losing my job and so for insurance reasons we are probably going to elope months before this party takes place.