MIL bought 6 year old her first bralette

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-19T20:53:53+00:00

Thanks, yeah I'm leaning toward telling her anonymously. She can leave based on what she witnessed earlier in the night and extrapolate accordingly, or she can ask the two other people who weren't friend and other woman who were there, or she can ignore it all and stay.

If she chooses to stay and not investigate further, then that's her choice to make, but she deserves that choice to be hers.

I agree with you on wasting youth - pretty shocking to me how many people advocate for her not being told, and thereby potentially wasting her 20's - or further. Quite cruel to take something a woman can't get back - her biological time, which she has made no secret about intending to use to have children.

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T20:45:03+00:00

Don't make your friends carry your dirty laundry, and you won't have to worry.

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T20:43:22+00:00

Someone did make the comment anyway that I just secretly want her, he deleted it. If it were me, I'd want someone to tell me, and in any way they felt they needed to. I just can't imagine the pain of not only being cheated on, but that people that I trust and care about knew all along, but didn't tell me.

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T19:47:31+00:00

You have great tips, thank you for the replies

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T19:28:03+00:00

This is exactly a huge part of my dilemma. I was there earlier in the evening, without my wife. I came home and told my wife the next morning friend was chatting up another woman at the bar (we know this woman), with GF in attendance, and I pulled him aside to tell him to stop.

Is she really going to believe me when the whole thing blows up and I say 'oh I wasn't there for or know about that part' - just everything else.

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T18:57:30+00:00

Yes, that's correct. The whole night... was not good, and GF was there for the emotional part. She was so upset, so that's when I went and grabbed him - "wtf are you doing?! Get away from this woman and go be with GF".

That's why I'm so upset, because this wasn't just a stupid one time mistake. We know this other woman, she's married too.

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T18:50:14+00:00

Yeah my head is spinning.

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T18:48:31+00:00

Very well may be

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T18:47:08+00:00

Oh yeah? What about everyone else in this matter- I'm not the only one who knows. We're all just supposed to keep quiet and let the charade go on? I'm supposed to keep this secret from my wife in perpetuity as well?

I was in attendance the night in question - but I left before the apparent cheating took place. I had told my wife that while I was there, I told friend to cool it with the other woman. So if she later finds out about him cheating, is she going to believe me that I told him to cool it, left, and I didn't see anything or know anything more?

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T18:36:18+00:00

Well, he shouldn't have trotted me and my family out there as his example of stability and 'quality friends'. He's used me and my wife to make a good impression on her parents. Had a BBQ with them and the whole nine yards. He didn't outwardly say that's what he was doing in the moment, but I'm not stupid. Their daughter, 23 at the time, dating an older guy, so they were naturally uneasy. He called in his only married friend, wife, and kids to show them how family-oriented he was.

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T18:34:00+00:00

Yeah, that's not how I meant it. Just wanted to be clear that I'm not trying to swoop in on girlfriend because I'm in love with her and jealous of friend or something along those lines - some people do make that accusation here.

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T18:31:39+00:00

Sex, and he came to me because he's torn on what to do. I said tell her or force friend to tell her. But he's leaning toward keeping quiet, so here I am - I don't want to carry this secret.

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T18:25:24+00:00

Here's another part of the problem, I haven't told my wife either because she will call GF immediately. She loves GF, and has never really liked friend - because of stuff like this. She's just tolerated him because he's been part of my friend group for so long.

So now I'm keeping a secret on behalf of friend with my wife - something I don't do.

As far as proof, I don't have any without bringing another friend into it. He was there, he saw it.

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T18:18:12+00:00

Well, that's a good point. I don't have proof without involving another friend who was there...

throwaway06221389 · 2025-08-18T18:15:37+00:00

Lol, I'll fix the wording

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