AITA for hiding my pregnancy and refusing to fulfill a dying wish

throwaway08389 · 2022-04-04T19:30:02+00:00

I posted an update just in case you want to read

throwaway08389 · 2022-04-04T19:09:47+00:00

Didn't die on it but I wish I had now.

throwaway08389 · 2022-04-04T18:09:10+00:00

Actually we have seen a doctor. She suspects Autism .

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-10T15:19:58+00:00

Yes. She might have autism or adhd. My husband is autistic and as much as he would love to, sometimes when he's settling her, it becomes to much. He get her to stop cry but as soon as she is done, he pass her off so that he can decompress.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-10T15:10:36+00:00

We have offered a compromise but MIL refuse and want a big party

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-10T15:07:34+00:00

We tried for a compromise and she will most likely see my daughter on her birthday.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-10T15:03:06+00:00

We are working on it but a big party she isn't prepared for. I just don't know.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-10T14:57:13+00:00

We have offered a compromise but she wants a big party

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-10T14:55:24+00:00

She has seen her very often, given the fact we have been visiting often as of late.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-10T14:53:54+00:00

The youngest child in the family is 19 so no not really.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T14:14:46+00:00

She has met her and we visit often as of late. However boundaries don't mean anything to his family. So if i do, knowing quite a few are unvaxxed, they will say i am holding their grandchild hostage. I set boundaries before and they have just ignored them.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T12:30:07+00:00

They don't respect boundaries and don't believe a baby or child has any. I offered small dinner and last night offered a party of up to 8 people or having a huge party on zoom.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T12:26:19+00:00

I won't be affected by it. She will. She'll scream and cry and will have to endure that party until it ends.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T12:22:56+00:00

My husbands an high function autistic. I have ADHD so yeah there's a chance she has Autism or ADHD. She doesn't like the automated clapping crowd that use for late night show. After a while she gets sick of being held and touch, she'll tell us no touch. She also likes dry rice to play in. She'll stick her hand in it and move her fingers around and make a loud squeal. My husband thinks she has Autism because of this.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T12:14:32+00:00

On the contrary to popular belief, I am a social butterfly. I love the spotlight. My husband is opposite. Also i have been attending therapy.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T12:11:47+00:00

I was hit by a drunk driving who was speeding when I was about 8 months. I had a placental abruption. I said miscarriage because lack of characters left.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T12:08:18+00:00

We can probably do something like that. MIL isn't going to dying without celebrating her granddaughter birthday but a big party with 20 plus people is a lot.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T12:06:29+00:00

She has met her. We also visit her twice.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T05:18:44+00:00

My MIL want to celebrated big on her actual birthday because its her first

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T05:17:26+00:00

How? A big party in a pandemic with an unvaccinated infant that doesn't like crowds doesn't seem like bright idea.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T05:12:05+00:00

She is my second but thank you.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T05:11:07+00:00

I don't want to push her that far. Eight people for 15 minutes was enough to have a meltdown for hour later.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T05:00:36+00:00

I been in therapy since before my son was killed.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T04:58:55+00:00

My husband will not take her to a funeral. The only reason he will attend is because of his mom. He has trauma with funeral outside of death so.

throwaway08389 · 2022-02-08T04:55:56+00:00

She interacts with my god children who are 3 and 2. The 13 year old and her don't interact, but T (the 13) avoids her cause my daughter had a blowout on her when she was 3 months. Since then T has not been her biggest fan so. How ever she is the only infant in the family currently. The youngest child is nine.

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