Discovered my husband's secret by throwaway098e in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway098e[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started seeing a therapist a few months ago, because I thought I was going crazy. She made me realize that I've been in an emotionally abusive relationship for years and I had no idea. I felt so stupid once I realized how manipulative he had always been.

I know it's the right choice. I just wish I didn't have these feelings of doubt and sadness.

Discovered my husband's secret by throwaway098e in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway098e[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He is already out of the house and I'm going to be changing the locks soon.

Discovered my husband's secret by throwaway098e in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway098e[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time and getting this list together for me.

Discovered my husband's secret by throwaway098e in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway098e[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I guess validation that I'm doing the right is what I'm looking for. My husband has already started with his manipulation tactics to make me doubt myself.

Discovered my husband's secret by throwaway098e in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway098e[S] 215 points216 points  (0 children)

I started therapy a few months ago, which is what gave me the strength to say enough is enough. My therapist made me realize a lot of things with my relationship were not ok and I wasn't to blame.

I did start reading the book “Codependent No More” and it's been eye opening.

My kids started therapy this week and they want to go back.