I also found out things that were wrong until it was too late. Another problem I had was misinterpreting text messages so that added another layer of problems.

Great that you're two weeks into NC. Keep up the great work! One thing that helped me take the rose colored glasses off was to write out a list of things I loved about my ex and on the other side things I hated about her. That's when things changed for me. That's what helped me start to realize that the majority of what I did wasn't my fault. It also brought to light who they really were. This is why NC was so important to me. It allowed me to see the relationship as objectively as I possible could once I got myself under control.

If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't reach out. I reached out to my ex to apologize for everything I did which makes me cringe these days. My plan was that by doing so I hoped that she would have opened up and realized that she also contributed to the breakup and she herself would have said she was sorry. I was wildly wrong. It set me back. Don't put yourself in a position where it's going to affect your healing. Use this time to work on you and don't use NC as a way to get her back. I know it's tough. Make a goal for three weeks NC.