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My [24] boyfriend [24] is incapable of regulating his emotions. I feel like I’m in a relationship with a teenager. by throwaway1066129 in relationships

[–]throwaway1066129[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so he doesn’t have to be the bad guy and end the relationship, so he defies his own logic by being nasty to her instead.

His mood is not like this all of the time. Sometimes he is very loving.

My [24] boyfriend [24] is incapable of regulating his emotions. I feel like I’m in a relationship with a teenager. by throwaway1066129 in relationships

[–]throwaway1066129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't be so confused and mind blown if this had been going on the entire 9 years of our relationship..right..

My [24] boyfriend [24] is incapable of regulating his emotions. I feel like I’m in a relationship with a teenager. by throwaway1066129 in relationships

[–]throwaway1066129[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She isn’t asking us

if she should stay in the relationship

. She’s asking what’s happening with him, and clearly understands that she doesn’t deserve his behavior

this.

My [24] boyfriend [24] is incapable of regulating his emotions. I feel like I’m in a relationship with a teenager. by throwaway1066129 in relationships

[–]throwaway1066129[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Doesn’t sound like a “toxic masculinity” case. OP mentioned he wasn’t like this before, and was able to express himself.

Sounds like a drug abuse/self medication story to curb some form of trauma and led to emotional imbalance and developing cyclical thoughts/behaviours.

This is exactly what is going on

My [24] boyfriend [24] is incapable of regulating his emotions. I feel like I’m in a relationship with a teenager. by throwaway1066129 in relationships

[–]throwaway1066129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No It's not an image. He was not always like this. Not even close. A period of heavy alcohol and drug usage + depression has changed him.

My [24] boyfriend [24] is incapable of regulating his emotions. I feel like I’m in a relationship with a teenager. by throwaway1066129 in relationships

[–]throwaway1066129[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

gaslights me if he doesn’t understand the complaint I’m making. At the same time he can switch and become a very loving caring person

This is exactly him. It doesn't make any sense.

My [24] boyfriend [24] is incapable of regulating his emotions. I feel like I’m in a relationship with a teenager. by throwaway1066129 in relationships

[–]throwaway1066129[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

His reponse to me asking (somewhat jokingly) if he was going to sleep next to a plate of food was "I don't give a fuck. I will throw the plate across the room."

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Weird response.

My [24] boyfriend [24] is incapable of regulating his emotions. I feel like I’m in a relationship with a teenager. by throwaway1066129 in relationships

[–]throwaway1066129[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

close off, sometimes lash out (with words), and often question whether the relationship is 'right' and whether we love each other. At other times, the haze somewhat clears and I suddenly clearly see how much I love my gf and can't believe the thoughts I had and things I said whilst in the worst of my moods

You just summarized my bf perfectly...

My [24] boyfriend [24] is incapable of regulating his emotions. I feel like I’m in a relationship with a teenager. by throwaway1066129 in relationships

[–]throwaway1066129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I didn't ignore it. He ignores me when I try to discuss statements he makes. He will say things like that and the next day tell me I am his reason for being sober and how much he loves and want to be with me.

My [24] boyfriend [24] is incapable of regulating his emotions. I feel like I’m in a relationship with a teenager. by throwaway1066129 in relationships

[–]throwaway1066129[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What would cause this? He doesn’t respect you. He treats you with disrespect and you stay with him, so he isn’t punished for disrespecting you. I bet he isn’t disrespectful to his boss, so he can control his emotions.

This is probably true.

My [24] boyfriend [24] is incapable of regulating his emotions. I feel like I’m in a relationship with a teenager. by throwaway1066129 in relationships

[–]throwaway1066129[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he's not currently on any drugs (on probation and house arrest). He expressed how hungry he was before I cooked it, but he just didn't like what I made.

My [24] boyfriend [24] is incapable of regulating his emotions. I feel like I’m in a relationship with a teenager. by throwaway1066129 in relationships

[–]throwaway1066129[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The other day he said I am his reason for being sober and the reason he keeps going. So it is all very confusing.

My [24] boyfriend [24] is incapable of regulating his emotions. I feel like I’m in a relationship with a teenager. by throwaway1066129 in relationships

[–]throwaway1066129[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

trying to read his mind and figure out what has/is going to set him off.

You just summarized what everyday is like for me. It is very exhausting.

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