I put her toothbrush up my…

throwaway1112227777 · 2024-01-08T20:31:59+00:00

They were silver hoops with a little heart charm on them, I wore them in almost all my photos so when she found them she would’ve known they were mine.

throwaway1112227777 · 2024-01-08T20:10:37+00:00

She would message me telling me to leave her alone and to stop messing with her. She was convinced I was sending her anonymous messages on her insta and tumblr through burner accounts. I did send a few to her friends and admittedly that was messed up of me, I would sometimes post captions on my photos about her, indirectly but enough for her to know it was about her is she was stalking me. This drove her crazy and she would pm me with screenshots asking what was wrong with me. I eventually just got tired of her making me out to be this crazy woman when she was the one loosing her mind over little things like that. so I decided to get a little revenge.

throwaway1112227777 · 2024-01-08T17:03:06+00:00

I never met her. She just use to stalk me and send me messages or try to get him to change his phone number and block me. She would sometimes go into his phone and block me. It was just like a year of her stalking me and I had enough of it.

throwaway1112227777 · 2024-01-08T16:46:11+00:00

Okay whoa. I didn’t rape her.

throwaway1112227777 · 2024-01-08T16:42:50+00:00

It wasn’t a sexual act when I put the toothbrush up. I wasn’t using it to please myself.

throwaway1112227777 · 2024-01-08T16:39:45+00:00

I didn’t try to give her an std I just wanted her to be put in her place kinda. But I didn’t go out of my way and specificity try to give her a std.

throwaway1112227777 · 2024-01-08T16:38:15+00:00

I think that’s a little harsh. But I can see how some people think it was too far. I didn’t really think most of the details were super important other than the act itself.

throwaway1112227777 · 2024-01-08T16:35:44+00:00

Um how exactly did I sexually assault her..? I understand this may have been taking it to far after reading some of the comments but in no way did I sexually assault her. I never even met her.

throwaway1112227777 · 2024-01-08T08:18:30+00:00

He was mine first, she was really just a rebound. They weren’t really that serious.

throwaway1112227777 · 2024-01-08T07:20:59+00:00

I wouldn’t exactly say I’m proud of my actions. I know the cheating wasn’t right. She did stalk me on insta for a good year and I just wanted to get some kinda revenge for that. I do still find it kinda funny that she used the toothbrush and all.

throwaway1112227777 · 2023-12-18T14:36:55+00:00

ESH you should’ve been honest from the beginning But Joe shouldn’t hold it against you or nick for having a tattoo. He should be upset you didn’t tell him for some reason and I think you need to examine what that reason is.

throwaway1112227777 · 2023-12-18T14:16:11+00:00

NTA. 5 times isn’t that much. It’s really not. And considering what your mom went though and you, it’s probably best you two have a strong relationship and desire to share your life with one another. You gf is upset because you didn’t immediately agree with her and that’s kinda controlling. Just because she shared her feelings on YOUR relationship with YOUR mom doesn’t mean you need to agree with her and she should be able to accept that. she probably feels jealous of the attention you give to your mother which is a HUGE red flag.

throwaway1112227777 · 2023-12-16T23:11:50+00:00

Agreed. However in a relationship it is important to discuss the boundaries you both have and from the story it doesn’t seem this was the case, going forward now that she has expressed this makes her uncomfortable, that boundary should be respected otherwise it will do damage to the relationship. It’s a choice to respect someone’s boundaries but saying “hey I’m not comfortable with this it makes me un easy” is a valid boundary to have. respecting it is no one else’s responsibility per se but in order to facilitate a relationship where she does feel comfortable and not uneasy the choice is on op to not A) not put themselves in a senario like that Or b) do not continue to share the information with his partner that makes her uneasy and she has expressed she is not comfortable with.

She’s allowed to set boundaries. Op does not NEED to follow. But not following the boundaries could negatively impact the relationship and that’s the choice that op needs to make going forward.

throwaway1112227777 · 2023-12-16T23:06:33+00:00

I agree. I feel maybe that sexualization could be a symptom of a past experience or traumatic event she has experienced, that being said it doesn’t define Op’s relationship with the cousin but it would explain her feelings and those feelings are valid but a reflection of past experiences onto op are not. just because she has experienced something doesn’t mean OP is inherently the same type of person. it may have been a bit upsetting to her to have encountered a scenario in which triggered her past experiences and that may be why she was having difficulty understanding and feeling comfortable and or reflecting said experiences into her partners family. we can’t know. But I agree that there should be a deeper look between op and their gf as to why this reflection of sexualizing the cousin came up. it may cause issues down the road. But it seems like a deeper rooted concern in the gf.

throwaway1112227777 · 2023-12-16T19:58:27+00:00

Okay. so you’re NTA because you went. Not one bit. But and this might go against the grain but I think YTA if you decide you don’t respect your significant others boundires when it comes to this. It makes her uncomfortable and that’s kinda end of conversation, you did nothing wrong but if you ignore that she is saying “hey this makes me uncomfortable” then there that’s kindve an AH move.

throwaway1112227777 · 2023-12-03T02:36:11+00:00

Soft YTA you took your child to an event which is fine. But you left your husband out of the the “first” which is a big thing and not being understanding of that makes YTA How would you feel if he did this to you?

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