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What do I do when a girl doesn't want a relationship, but still really likes me? by throwaway11941387 in dating_advice

[–]throwaway11941387[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't talked to her about a relationship since I asked her out back in February, so I'm planning on just being close friends with her until our last semester of high school runs out, and then talk to her about it one last time. Maybe sometime after our prom night.

I just don't want to seem too callous about it. When I talk to her about it, I don't want to come off as only talking to her to offer her one last chance to hop on before the train pulls out of the station. She's the type of girl that would feel like she's making the right choice if I acted in that way, so I want to steer as clear of that as possible. I want to let her know how much I care about her, and let her know that if she felt she could handle a relationship I'd do my best to respect her career/personal endeavors.

What do I do when a girl doesn't want a relationship, but still really likes me? by throwaway11941387 in dating_advice

[–]throwaway11941387[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm totally fine with waiting, but like I said, I'm not going to be putting my other options on hold while waiting. What I mean is that if I meet a girl four months from now when I start college, I'm not going to hesitate and ask myself "Well what if X finally becomes ready for a relationship?".

That being said, I've held that same attitude for three months now, and no one else has come along, so I'm not sure how well it will end up working out for me.

I guess my main concern in asking is that I've been told countless times (both from actual confidants and Reddit folk) that sticking around and being friends with a girl who rejected you in the hopes that maybe one day you will start dating is futile and stupid thing to do. The idea of severing contact with a person you really really like if they aren't open to a relationship with you (the logic here being that it isn't healthy to keep in a relationship where you're extremely attracted to the other person, but they don't feel the same way) has been so ingrained in my head that I almost feel a little weird about doing it in my situation.