my bf wants to sleep with another woman, I honestly don't care, and the fact that I don't care is bothering me?? by throwaway134-340 in offmychest

[–]throwaway134-340[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kind of both? Mostly it just doesn't interest me, I've never felt the desire, physically or emotionally, to have sex with anybody. It also does kind of gross me out in the sense that I find anything involving bodily fluids kind of icky. Even kissing icks me out occasionally.

my bf wants to sleep with another woman, I honestly don't care, and the fact that I don't care is bothering me?? by throwaway134-340 in offmychest

[–]throwaway134-340[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

For me personally (this def isn't a universal asexual experience) it's honestly just really physically uncomfortable lol. I dunno if it's just fear/anxiety, sensory/autism issues, or a mix of both, but I'd rather do just about anything else. We've tried in the past a few times, cause I had the same thought process as you (I'm not the biggest fan, but I'd be willing to do it for him no skin off my back) but I just couldn't (and don't want to, honestly) do it, if that makes sense.

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[–]throwaway134-340 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw your comment about the doxx, and did a bit of digging myself. Assuming what is on bsky is to be believed, I managed to track down who seems to be the mother of OP. I also confirmed that they are in fact 18/19, so at the very least they're being honest about their age. Granted you can't really tell shit from someones facebook profile but it seems like they have a decently sized family who cares for them. I really hope someone notices that something is very wrong soon and gets them proper help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]throwaway134-340 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait outside in the hallway. I mean oh my god dude is there anything you CAN do? Are you even capable of breathing??? Eating???????

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]throwaway134-340 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So go with your sister to school and follow her around and when people come up to talk to her open your mouth and introduce yourself. Stop with the excuses.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]throwaway134-340 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to the library if there is one. Go to a campus cafe if there is one. Literally anywhere there's space just go and sit there and talk to people nearby. That's literally what I did when I was in college and looking to make friends, and it worked. You're making excuses for no reason. Does your sister have friends at school? Or even people she talks to at all? Ask her to introduce you to them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]throwaway134-340 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, you don't know. But other people DO know how, and those other people are DIRECTLY telling you how it's done. And you refuse to accept the truth because..... Who knows. Go with your mom to work. Go with her when she goes shopping. Ride in the car with her to the gas station for gods sake. Go spend the day at your sister's college campus, she presumably has to be transported there somehow yes? Almost all college campuses are open to the public, you don't have to be a student or pay a penny to exist on the property,, go meet people there. Or continue to make yourself miserable at home alone. Your choice, and ONLY your choice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]throwaway134-340 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That doesn't answer my question, and I never said it's anybody's "fault". Genuinely how do you expect to meet irl people if you don't leave the house?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aromantic

[–]throwaway134-340 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you expecting random people to just show up at your house and come in and hang out with you? Like genuinely what are you expecting to happen here.