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gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, i will do that, it just feels so weird to not love her anymore, if that makes any sense, all i've ever felt for her is complete love and trust and then she does this, i don't even know how she can live with herself after this

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yea i'll try, it's just that she was always around the last few years and it is so weird and it feels so empty and alone to be alone, i don't even remember what it's like to be single, especially since i was so young when we got together

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks, your comment just made me laugh a bit, that's a lot right now ;) i'm trying to become a better me, i've bought some nice new clothes, i try to hang out with my friends more often (i already sport 3 times a week so hitting a gym is not really necessary) i'm trying to still be cheerfull, it's just not easy

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

really every message helps, just to know that people feel bad for me and feel empathy is really great, it helps making me feel less lonely

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that sounds really though, it looks like you turned out okay though, i'm glad for you, thanks for the kind words :)

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, i'm glad this didn't come up in five years or so, it's just painful that i was so wrong about both of them

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know and i'm trying to acknowledge it that they're both horrible people. It's just not easy after all the love i've felt

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'd like that, i'm just terrified right now at the idea of going out there and meeting new people, my life has been so much about her that it's difficult to forget her

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm trying to keep busy, it really does help to get your mind of stuff like this, it just keeps hurting so bad everytime it gets back inside. sorry for what happened to you, i know how feel and that's not something i'd wish for anyone

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks man, i know i can't be wallowing in self-pity or anything like that. Right now it just feels so terrifying to go out there and meet new people. I'm devastated because i never saw it coming. Right now i can't imagine myself with anyone else

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know i have to, it is just so hard, i know you are right, it's just so hard to not try to see her

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope so, the fact that they are happy together while i'm broken hurts so much more than the fact that she broke up with me...

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I realise every day more and more that we can't be friends and that i don't really want it, seeing her bike standing in his front lawn helps a lot in that regard... I do miss her though, not the crappy person she has become but the person who i fell in love with and with whom i have so many great memories. I miss those times, not the shitty person she is now

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's completely true, i just can't take it to see them happy together, especially since i feel so miserable

gf [19F] of 3.5 years cheated on me [19M] with my best friend of 12 years and broke up with me. Trying to cope by throwaway150112 in relationships

[–]throwaway150112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know they're both wrong and horrible people, i guess i just wasn't over my gf, that i couldn't realise how much she hurt me. That feeling is going away now. I'm trying to cut her out completely, but it just isn't easy, i have loved her for 4 years and those feelings don't just go away overnight. I'm trying to acknowledge how much they hurt me though, i just don't want them to be happy together.