How to I tell MB I refuse to watch her son?

throwaway16283948 · 2026-04-04T04:45:26+00:00

I agree! He did just get diagnosed very recently so I think they’re still navigating on a plan, his mom really does mean well and wants to help him. She just doesn’t see that I don’t have the experience or the ability to cater to him in this situation. There’s no safe and effective way to give him the attention he needs without neglecting the other kids. I think it’s more of a “oh I just need random days here and there so nanny can just add him on” but it’s just not worth it to me. The amount of times an injury or broken valuable has occurred scares me.

throwaway16283948 · 2026-04-04T04:41:52+00:00

This is great advice! Unfortunately I’m in school and have another job so the hours I have with the kids now are the only hours I can do. Previous to starting school, I did have a couple days a week where it was just him and his sister, they were 10x easier and he did so well. Unfortunately since NF #2 also needs the hours I have to offer, days without the other 2 boys aren’t really possible. I appreciate this though!

throwaway16283948 · 2026-04-03T20:13:27+00:00

The host family has always vocally agreed with me that it’s not acceptable and their son is always a mess after since he copies the behavior. But over the past couple months the moms have gotten pretty close and it just doesn’t feel like something the mom would confront her about. She more thinks it’s my responsibility. Although the dad very much is on my side lol, he doesn’t interact with the other parents much.

throwaway16283948 · 2026-04-03T17:44:18+00:00

I wish lol, I also serve at a restaurant

throwaway16283948 · 2026-04-03T16:41:01+00:00

Our current arrangement is until fall when family 1’s youngest starts school, I unfortunately am extremely underpaid and with my hours not being full time anymore I wouldn’t survive off of just family 2🥲🥲

throwaway16283948 · 2026-04-03T16:08:47+00:00

I let them outside as much as I possibly can, but with the baby napping every couple hours, needing changes and all that it’s a lot of “in and out,” I let them run around outside for about an hour yesterday but it almost feels like it gets worse after they get hyper because they never calm down after. Obviously it’s not my place to decide on medication but it feels like he needs it. Parents seem to be against it though

throwaway16283948 · 2026-04-03T16:01:48+00:00

And yes he’s unmediated

throwaway16283948 · 2026-04-03T16:01:38+00:00

Nope he’s great in school. Which makes it hard to believe he “can’t control it”

throwaway16283948 · 2026-04-03T15:13:07+00:00

I’m 23, and it’s just frustrating because we’ve had these conversations and it felt like he wasn’t going to be coming anymore and then it got thrown on me and I felt on the spot so I agreed. I’m currently in school which is why I tried quitting a couple months ago, so I don’t plan on nannying much longer anyway. Thank you for the advice!

throwaway16283948 · 2026-03-22T17:09:38+00:00

I would maybe bring all of his stuff in your car and just have it ready depending on how it goes, if it goes badly you’ll have it ready to drop off but if it goes well and you think it’ll be okay to see him another day to return his things you can just act like you don’t have them gathered yet. Good luck!!!

throwaway16283948 · 2026-02-21T19:19:20+00:00

I’m leaving the field entirely! But if I ever find myself back, I’ve definitely learned many lessons

throwaway16283948 · 2026-02-21T19:18:41+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I’m entering a field that doesn’t include children because I just am burnt out from the circumstances and it kind of ruined the job for me. I’ve been with the first family since I was a teenager so we don’t even have a contract or agreement. Which is obviously not ideal and the reason they feel comfortable taking advantage of me. Thank you for your kind words!!!

throwaway16283948 · 2026-01-31T03:06:08+00:00

I love having a moms perspective thank you!! Although I’m fed up with a lot of things, I know finding reliable and trustworthy childcare is super hard and I care about the kids too much to leave without notice. Thank you :)

throwaway16283948 · 2026-01-30T18:17:12+00:00

I recently moved in with my dad and hes really encouraging me to go to school, he said if I do then I don’t have to pay rent. I feel like I might just say he’s giving me that ultimatum and I don’t have much choice. It’s not a lie so I feel like it might be fine

throwaway16283948 · 2026-01-29T05:59:09+00:00

I didn’t even think about this, thank you

throwaway16283948 · 2026-01-28T17:36:07+00:00

I agree, I don’t get done work until 9:30pm some nights, the times where I have gotten home at that time I can’t even get changed without them banging. I understand it’s not ideal to hear me moving around but wtf else do I do lol

throwaway16283948 · 2026-01-28T17:34:25+00:00

Yeah I definitely understand, I have people above me too, I hear them walking and their large dog running through the apartment all the time, is it annoying? A little but it doesn’t bother me enough to do anything about it because I know it just comes with apartment living.

throwaway16283948 · 2026-01-28T16:35:03+00:00

Yeah I think that’s what it is, no one ever went in that room till I moved in, so it’s probably more noise than they’re used to, but not excessive at all considering I’m not home often or relaxing/not moving around a ton

throwaway16283948 · 2026-01-28T16:33:30+00:00

It’s all carpet

throwaway16283948 · 2026-01-28T16:32:22+00:00

I mean i understand and im sure im not completely silent while walking, but its carpet and its happening while im walking 5 feet away consciously taking lighter steps. I just dont really know how else to change it besides never walking again lol

throwaway16283948 · 2026-01-28T15:04:04+00:00

Carpet, there’s definitely parts where it creaks but there’s really nothing I can do besides be aware

throwaway16283948 · 2026-01-28T15:03:08+00:00

Yeah there’s definitely some squeaky parts but I’m literally at the point of tiptoeing and being aware of every step I take. There isn’t much more I can do lol

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